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[–]hellonumpty 17 insightful - 9 fun17 insightful - 8 fun18 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

I’m the opposite kinda. Knowing I always liked men and felt like a gay man trapped in a “girls” body was kinda what made me realize I was actually trans and not just fetishizing gay men. I’ve always been drawn to gay men and their love stories since I was a teenager. I thought it was cringy tho until it all clicked. I’m having a harder time with the idea of being seen as a man eventually and “being one of them” than as the idea of being gay. God life is so complex and exhausting lol

😬 I'm not sure how she thought "I feel like a gay men trapped in a girls body" somehow wasn't part of fetishising gay men?

And yes life must be so complex and exhausting pretending to be something you're not.

Another one:

I knew I liked boys as young as 6 (I still remember my first crush)

Wow. Congrats on being a straight girl. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[–]hufflepuff-poet 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Being gay comes up every single day when I'm out and about holding my partner's hand. I live in a progressive city but there are still times where I wonder whether we should stop holding hands, and times where we do stop out of fear. I have never felt this way about being trans. It might be because I'm rarely visibly trans - basically never apart from when I'm changing in the men's locker room or carrying a small trans pin on my gym bag - or because of something else entirely, I'm not sure. I've been with my partner for a decade, starting pre-transition, and I think I also feel estranged from the gay community due to that. I've never experienced gay dating or club culture and I probably never will. And that's fine by me, it just makes more conscious of my gayness, in a "I don't know my own community" kind of way. Anyway. Wishing you luck in figuring yourself out. These things take time.

They really wanna wear our skin. This is so offensive, a straight couple does not and will never face the same oppression of an actual homosexual couple. I hate these larpers so much 😑😒

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yup that one jumped out at me, too. And notice how vague she is being; she doesn't ponder at all about why she felt fear. No situational details are described. Was it because she and her partner saw someone give them a dirty look? Did she decide to stop, or did her partner, or did they spontaneously decide to stop holding hands at the exact same moment without any prompting from an external stimulus? (I have a sinking suspicion that if they had stopped holding hands because someone was rude to them, then she would have written allllllllll about that...)

u/yousaythosethings Thought you might find this interesting as an example of one of the patterns described on Down The Rabbit Hole:

The members' criticism avoidance mixes with their authoritarian-follower disinterest in facts to create a distinctive approach to reality. Members have difficulty integrating details into a coherent whole. Their stories are generally vague and focused on the emotions they experienced during the episode, lacking information about what led up to the event and often related with a timeline so mangled it might have been run through a blender.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 8 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah; not just hard... try IMPOSSIBLE. Literally. Kinda like being gay... when you're actually the straightest straight who ever straighted.