ColonizationIt's so hard being a gay man when you're a woman

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[–]hufflepuff-poet 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Being gay comes up every single day when I'm out and about holding my partner's hand. I live in a progressive city but there are still times where I wonder whether we should stop holding hands, and times where we do stop out of fear. I have never felt this way about being trans. It might be because I'm rarely visibly trans - basically never apart from when I'm changing in the men's locker room or carrying a small trans pin on my gym bag - or because of something else entirely, I'm not sure. I've been with my partner for a decade, starting pre-transition, and I think I also feel estranged from the gay community due to that. I've never experienced gay dating or club culture and I probably never will. And that's fine by me, it just makes more conscious of my gayness, in a "I don't know my own community" kind of way. Anyway. Wishing you luck in figuring yourself out. These things take time.

They really wanna wear our skin. This is so offensive, a straight couple does not and will never face the same oppression of an actual homosexual couple. I hate these larpers so much 😑😒

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yup that one jumped out at me, too. And notice how vague she is being; she doesn't ponder at all about why she felt fear. No situational details are described. Was it because she and her partner saw someone give them a dirty look? Did she decide to stop, or did her partner, or did they spontaneously decide to stop holding hands at the exact same moment without any prompting from an external stimulus? (I have a sinking suspicion that if they had stopped holding hands because someone was rude to them, then she would have written allllllllll about that...)

u/yousaythosethings Thought you might find this interesting as an example of one of the patterns described on Down The Rabbit Hole:

The members' criticism avoidance mixes with their authoritarian-follower disinterest in facts to create a distinctive approach to reality. Members have difficulty integrating details into a coherent whole. Their stories are generally vague and focused on the emotions they experienced during the episode, lacking information about what led up to the event and often related with a timeline so mangled it might have been run through a blender.