LifestyleDating as a Gay or Lesbian while not believing in Trans Ideology, how has it been?

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[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I haven't put much effort into dating for the last couple years and instead have been working on other goals (2nd degree, investing, etc.). That being said, due to my being openly critical about trans ideology two years ago while working at the bathhouse probably affected how I'm viewed locally. Combine that with my current living situation and you have all the reasons why I don't bother with dating right now.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Same. Zero effort goes into dating lately

But anytime I've tried, I've only approached the clearly 'gender critical' women. No way I'm dealing with the stress of 'will she leave me or vilainize me if I say one wrong thing'

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Indeed, this probably wouldn't be a good type of person to date no matter what—it speaks to a high degree of immaturity and a lack of emotional intelligence.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You know, that's a good point. Silver linings, I guess; villainization and blanket-rejection of people who don't believe in trans ideology could be a way to weed out potential dating prospects who don't think critically much.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes. We've been so busy focusing on the main perpetrators (TRAs) that we don't often enough ask ourselves if we would really want to date someone as small-minded, credulous and obedient as so many of their enablers have proven themselves to be. If they weren't enablers for TRAs, they would likely be enablers for some other group for some other reason (now, imagine they have a toxic family which becomes your in-laws, for example). Whether that reason is gullibility or something else it's still not a good sign for trying to start an adult relationship.

In other words, people who open their mouths like baby birds and let the most forceful person in the vicinity spoon-feed them a distorted version of reality are people who can't really be trusted on an intimate level either. (I speak from direct experience on that point sadly. Some of the most dangerous people to try to get close to are the ones who are easily played.)

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If they weren't enablers for TRAs, they would likely be enablers for some other group for some other reason

Yupppp. Exactly. I've been struggling to put words to this.