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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Would you says most USA lesbians belong to chapstick into chapstick category, while the super femme are more likely to be into butches?

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yes for the first. No for the second. The super femmes tend to be femmes4femmes.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

But there are cities in the USA where somehow there is a high concentration of extremely femme lesbians obsessed with looks than in any others part of the country. Then I get it. I suppose in Italy that would be Milan. As there they are more fashion and look obsessed than in other part of the country. Surprsing the super femme are femmexfemme though. I've always expected that the more stereotypically feminine a woman is, the more she is searching for masculine role. But definitely, chapsticks for life lol

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think The L Word (original) is very accurate when it comes to American lesbians. And also that series Killing Eve. Power femmes are feminine on the outside and masculine on the inside... that's what other femmes prefer. Femmes date butches out of convenience... we're easier to spot and approach. No wondering if we're straight, bi or gay... and we likely won't reject you. Femmes fear rejection.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

For masculine do you mean the top bs of today? Or just being courting and assertive in dating more giving, like usually man is expected in relationship? A passive femme would want that kind of femme, not all femmes obviously. I do hope most lesbians are in the middle and more into a balanced equal relationship though.

[–]censorshipment 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Assertive, yeah. I think passive femmes are bisexual... I don't think any real lesbian is passive unless she has self-esteem issues or something... but she'd naturally be assertive with a great lesbian life coach or mentor.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know. Don't think being assertive or submissive has anything to do with your sexual orientation, especially in a sexual way. Although bi woman might fall more into the passive way, but just because they're used to man courting them and expect the same from women.