LesbianThis is one of the most depressing manifestos from a teenage butch lesbian I've read... it's the way young butch girls are taught to hate themselves. Also peek the cis gay commenter who can relate. Hell, I relate and I'm not even butch.

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[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, you'd think that coming to that realization would snap this poor girl out of it - she's basically so close to understanding that she'll never be an actual man but somehow just comes to the conclusion that her life is shitty because she wasn't born a man. I wish there was some way to break through to someone like this, and tell them that they do have a childhood, they do have memories, they can have children and tell them about the first time they fell in love with another woman... I get that sometimes accepting yourself is hard, especially as a teen, but it doesn't have to be this way. How can she not see that going on hormones and trying to live life as a man instead of as a lesbian woman is going to bring her nothing but more pain?

I await with great anxiety the stories that will be told a decade from now.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

agreed with everything here, and it's honestly no wonder so many become more suicidal after transitioning. I suppose it's easy to believe in the fantasy that after hormones and surgeries there is a life available to live as the authentic you, only to become clearer and clearer as time goes on that no matter what chemicals or procedures are done to your body, it is in fact still a fantasy.

I fantasize about being a man. Doesn't change the fact I'm not one, and that I'll never be one. I hate how it's become expected to feed these warped views of reality of clearly mentally ill people. How many lives is this destroying that we don't know about.

[–]barnarnasis this tv show my friend? 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yikes, I regret looking at her comment history. Those thoughts shouldn't be validated and allowed to fester and reach this point :/ Heartbreaking.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I also relate. I realised I was a lesbian around 22, but before that my life was just one big effort trying not to be who I am. At 26 I still have trouble being who I am. When I was a teenager I used to feel like I was a fraud and no one knew the real me.

Back in 2005 however, people on the internet used to say "teenage years are rough, that's normal, don't worry it gets better" Back in 2005, teenagers on the internet vented to each other and insulted their favourite hated classmates. They posted threads on forums and weren't told their body was wrong. Teenage magazines would always have a "I hate my body" letter from a female reader and they would answer with "the first step of accepting your body is to get used to it, spend some time looking at yourself in the mirror without judgement."

Now all those things have fallen out of style and it's all about twitter/instagram and whatever else they use where it's all about how many followers you have, how popular you are. Society has completely failed teenagers while pretending to "do better" with its endless talks of anti-bullying and acceptance. All a smoke screen.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh god yes! I remember this too. I hated female puberty. I hated the growing breasts, I hated the bra shopping, I hated the periods and using tampons and pads. I didn't want to be a woman. I looked at my older brother and felt nothing but envy. I felt like a passenger in my own body.

Thankfully, I had a very supportive mother who I could talk to about this, and she always reassured me these feelings are normal. She felt the same way growing up. Puberty is an awkward and unpleasant experience for everyone, I just had to live through it, and it would get better.

And what do you know, she was right. I'm well into adulthood and while I still have issues with my female body sometimes, it's nowhere near as debilitating. And I know that the issues I do have are due to the insane body image expectations imposed on girls and women.

Teenagers, especially girls, are really bearing the brunt of this as you said. So many are going to have decades of trauma because of this.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The homo females turned into trans, always make me the most sad.

[–]ColoredTwice 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pretty sad - looks like she understands all the ways society has failed her, but thinks that itis her fault, not that society is wrong. She is blaming the victim, herself, instead.

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Cue "My Mind's Playing Tricks On Me" by the Geto Boys.

https://youtu.be/IJtHdkyo0hc

Her mind is straight up lying to her.

[–]SuperGayIsOkay 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is a cry for help from someone who needs therapy but is told that buying into the magic of gender identity will fix them.

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