LifestyleBreaking up w my gf over trans ideology..

submitted by hufflepuff-poet from self.LGBDropTheT

sorted by:
top
newinsightfulfun
you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]julesburm1891 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

A few months into dating my fiancée, she sent me this via text:

Baby, I know. Present over perfect. I’m ready to be here for you, and with you every day. I know it won’t always be nice, or exciting. I know we are going to disagree, our idiosyncrasies/neuroses made to be less cute. But today when I was driving home, I had this fantasy of going home to you. That thought stays with me. It’s not about diets or cultures or habits. It’s about existing in a world we choose to share.

A few years later and I still think this is one of the best assessments of a relationship. You guys aren’t going to agree on a whole lot of things outside of TQ+ madness. What matters is that you respect each other and be honest. (And sometimes, one of you isn’t going to be respectful about differences and there has to be a conversation about that.)

Trying talking to her. Tell her how you feel and see if you can work through it.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

This is so fucking romantic, my heart hurts so badly. Your girlfriend is a romantic like me. Real love is so intense, almost suffocating in its power. There is nothing more beautiful than finding a person wh will still with you, regardless od differences. Someone you can always rely, because in the end love is the most serious form of commitment, it's having a person that makes you feel at home and safe, regardless of where you are. Lucky is the one who finds love, in a world where hate and indifference reign. You guys are very lucky

[–]julesburm1891 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Sei italiana, vero? Naturalmente, sei romantica. 🙃

Thank you. I think you’re right. Love is both rare and a lot of work. You’ve got to do your best!

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Sì, italiana. Sai la lingua? Although being romantic is italian feature, I'm just ridicolous level of romantic. Like I still really believe in fairytales, true love till death and even though I know is naive, the passion, love is the thing that makes you really feel alive like no other and nothing it's worth fight for than this. But it's so difficult to find,especially for us homosexual. I hope you two will last till the end and that I can manage to have something like that in the future. That message is so damn heart melting lol

[–]julesburm1891 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Sto provando di imparare. ...è andare...

Idk. I think there really is the possibility of a fairy tale romance. The fairy tales just leave out that, after the wedding, there’s a whole of not-so-sexy work and disagreements that comes along with keeping that romance alive and growing.

You’re going to find it. (I feel it in my bones.)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, it's possible, but also unlikely and not everyone will have it, unfortunately. How many divorces or people in shitty relationships are there? It's even less lilely as gay, so you got an huge deal of luck to have found such romantic woman and a lasting love.

My neighbor died surrounded by his children and his wife, who was saying "ti amo" after decades of marriage. And I thought, that's the best thing, that if I could choose a way to die, would be with my wife saying she loves me. In the end, it's a matter of luck though and I always remind myself that not believing in fairytales and being more realistic, including the acceptance of not finding the perfect relationship of my dream, is necessary to avoid so much sufferance.But you are a successful story that everyone can use as hope for the future. In the end, it's only takes one right person to be happy

[–]lavender_menace 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Did you ask her how her relationship was built and maintained? Maybe we can all learn from her wisdom.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well, no, but old fashioned. It was normal in the past to get married, stay together and never think about divorce no matter what. There was far more tolerance, today far less tolerance and more demand. Which isn't bad per se, life is too short to stay in relationship fort the sake of it. He did often house chores, quite rare for a men of his generation

[–]lavender_menace 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s “forced staying together” thing if she actually loved him till the end, I’ve seen the old guard hate each other guts, but if she did love him and he loved her for decades, I do think both of them put effort into it and that’s their wisdom I’d like to have as well.

But you are right - it is heart warming to see old couples like that, old friends as well ❤️

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That was so cute! :' I wish you the best happinness in the world!!

[–]julesburm1891 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aww, thank you!

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That is so insanely wholesome. :) :) Thank you for sharing it.

[–]julesburm1891 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, pal! :)