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[–]julesburm1891 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Sei italiana, vero? Naturalmente, sei romantica. 🙃

Thank you. I think you’re right. Love is both rare and a lot of work. You’ve got to do your best!

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Sì, italiana. Sai la lingua? Although being romantic is italian feature, I'm just ridicolous level of romantic. Like I still really believe in fairytales, true love till death and even though I know is naive, the passion, love is the thing that makes you really feel alive like no other and nothing it's worth fight for than this. But it's so difficult to find,especially for us homosexual. I hope you two will last till the end and that I can manage to have something like that in the future. That message is so damn heart melting lol

[–]julesburm1891 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Sto provando di imparare. ...è andare...

Idk. I think there really is the possibility of a fairy tale romance. The fairy tales just leave out that, after the wedding, there’s a whole of not-so-sexy work and disagreements that comes along with keeping that romance alive and growing.

You’re going to find it. (I feel it in my bones.)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, it's possible, but also unlikely and not everyone will have it, unfortunately. How many divorces or people in shitty relationships are there? It's even less lilely as gay, so you got an huge deal of luck to have found such romantic woman and a lasting love.

My neighbor died surrounded by his children and his wife, who was saying "ti amo" after decades of marriage. And I thought, that's the best thing, that if I could choose a way to die, would be with my wife saying she loves me. In the end, it's a matter of luck though and I always remind myself that not believing in fairytales and being more realistic, including the acceptance of not finding the perfect relationship of my dream, is necessary to avoid so much sufferance.But you are a successful story that everyone can use as hope for the future. In the end, it's only takes one right person to be happy

[–]lavender_menace 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Did you ask her how her relationship was built and maintained? Maybe we can all learn from her wisdom.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well, no, but old fashioned. It was normal in the past to get married, stay together and never think about divorce no matter what. There was far more tolerance, today far less tolerance and more demand. Which isn't bad per se, life is too short to stay in relationship fort the sake of it. He did often house chores, quite rare for a men of his generation

[–]lavender_menace 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s “forced staying together” thing if she actually loved him till the end, I’ve seen the old guard hate each other guts, but if she did love him and he loved her for decades, I do think both of them put effort into it and that’s their wisdom I’d like to have as well.

But you are right - it is heart warming to see old couples like that, old friends as well ❤️