To this day I come across trans people in my hobby groups online (and rarely, IRL) and I NEVER initiate hostility towards them, but nine times out of ten they pretty much always cause problems

This is so fucking true it hurts. I'm involved in a hobby that tends to draw genderspecials, (tabletop RPGs) and 90% of the time when a group has drama it's because a begendered person wasn't getting enough attention. Either that, or someone else in the group got tired of their shit. Trying to bring wokeness into character creation "okay so what's everyone's character's sexual orientation, gender, and pronouns? UwU" or their character continuously hitting on other player characters of the same gender so the genderling can roleplay their kawaii yaoi/yuri fantasy. If you thought you've ever seen something cringeworthy, it pales in comparison to neckbeards speaking in falsetto voices trying to roleplay as UwU smol twans anime catgirl lesbians UwU.