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[–]TurtleFuzz 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. As others have said, it is NOT your fault. I would follow their advice about never seeing this guy, blocking him, speaking with a therapist, getting a medical exam, and talking with someone you can trust.

I had a similar situation happen to me, with my husband, and it's a confusing situation. I also felt bad about saying no, because I love my hub and it did feel a little good. Luckily, my husband and I had many serious discussions after that, and he agreed that what he did was wrong, and promised to listen to me during sex. It's been over 5 years and he's never done that to me again. But like I said, I am lucky that he learned and listened to me. Not a lot of men learn or listen. So it's best to cut this guy out of your life.

[–]our_team_is_winning 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I also felt bad about saying no, because I love my hub and it did feel a little good.

You felt bad about saying no to something you didn't want? He thinks he owns your body? I don't think I could forgive a rapist, husband or not. You have a far more forgiving nature than I do.