Generation of 'infantilised millennials' from lack of boundaries

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[–][deleted] 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This was difficult to read. He sounds pompous. While I agree that boundaries are incredibly important and many families fail at implementing them, he's missed so many important factors. Money doesn't grow on trees and the cost of living is not the same as it once was. Kids living at home because school takes longer? Nah, school is expensive! Staying with your parents is the financially mature decision. Buying a home? Good luck in this economy. Anyway, kids are struggling to understand where they fit into this messed up world but I'm not buying that it's all about boundaries. There's a lot going on and untangling it seems near impossible.

[–]Realwoman 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is the daily fail, so I don't particularly trust it. Not that I don't think spoiling kids is not a problem

[–]Thatstealthygal 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pfft, could have said exactly the same of my generation born in the 60s, in terms of not wanting to grow up in a hurry.

[–]jkfinn 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Blame post-modernism, queer, the internet, the sexual revolution, and the new age movement for millennials’ lack of boundaries. None gave much heed to principles, basic truths, objective criteria, or any forms of certainty. Words like “should” “political correctness” “judgment” and “moral” were either mocked or shunned. And, of course “the political” was viewed in very narrow terms so it could be made suspect, small, boring, gray. and old-hat. The perfect environs for transgender, the boundary buster to beat all, to take off and flourish in.

[–]Thatstealthygal 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think the real issue is the illusion of too many choices. In Olden Times you had very few. Which was hugely restrictive to anyone outside of the norm in any way. Now, you get offered choices right down to genetic level, layer upon layer of labels and paths. No wonder they struggle to pay their bills - not from lack of money but from being exhausted.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I get tired of seeing the birth years for each individual generation constantly shift every month.
Still, I think there are a ton of PARENTS who seem to lack boundaries with their children. For example, my parents (who were in the narcissist/borderline category) took offense to each and every stage of my development. I can see a more extreme problem is happening among younger people.. particularly with parents who define themselves via using their children as social media fodder. Some of them want to infantilize their children for their own selfish reasons.

[–]RestingWitchface 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The authors of the book "The Coddling of the American Mind" seem to think that it's not so much Milennials as Gen Z, and attribute this to the fact that they were the first generation to grow up with the internet in their pockets. Cancel culture has always existed on university campuses to a small extent, but it only really took off after milennials had mostly graduated and the student body became entirely made up of Gen Zers.