GC: How do you feel about trans men using the men's restroom?

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[–]worried19 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fine. I use the men's restroom much of the time myself, and I'm not even trans. I pass easily as a guy if you don't look closely, so it's often the safest option. I've never had a bad experience in the men's room. I don't think the vast majority of men care either way. Natal females are no danger to males.

[–]DistantGlimmer 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a GC man and I do not care who uses men's restrooms. The danger to (especially gender-nonconforming) men in our restrooms comes from other men not trans females. I wouldn't encourage them to use them because of this danger but it is their choice.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel like trans men, due to being socialized female, would be more aware of whether they were drawing attention to themselves or making others uncomfortable and probably wouldn’t use men’s spaces if they felt like they would be. There isn’t any safety concern for men having trans men in their spaces the way that there can be for trans women in women’s spaces. I feel like if men wanted to assert their boundaries over having female people in men’s spaces that would be okay for them to do, but it doesn’t really seem like they care.

[–]CatbugMods allow rape victim blaming in this sub :) 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Their choice. I don’t care.

[–]levoyageur718293 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sometimes one thinks of the bathroom thing as "two separate spaces," but that isn't really true to their purpose. In the beginning, all public facilities were unisex, but women campaigned for and received the right to their own bathrooms to protect them from men. Since all women immediately switched to using women's facilities, the old bathrooms became the de-facto men's bathrooms, but that's not how it worked originally and that's not the best way to understand them. Anyway, trans men aren't a threat to natal men, so I'm all for it. It doesn't change the calculus of danger for anyone except the person making the choice.

[–]luckystar 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Completely indifferent, because I don't use them

[–]divingrightintowork 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's not really my thing to have an opinion on. You should be talking to men, and asking clear questions - with pictures of average trans men (Buck Angel ain't an average trans man)