The level of misinterpretation of pretty much everything I said is exhausting. It’s almost like you’re doing it on purpose.

• fujoshi exist but that is a totally different issue. that’s more like trans women. straight men are not going around demanding to be called gay men but women are doing that to lesbians. There is a reason for that

• who said I was just talking about abuse from men? we get the same shit from women. they often work with men to be predatory towards us. even if it was solely from men, women don’t get a free pass on purposely erasing gay people from their own definitions and spaces just because “men super bad!!”. Going around telling people lesbians like men too doesn’t stop being fucked up just because you’re a girl. especially when a lot of times they do that for homophobic reasons to begin with

• aesthetic and tumblr is part of it too, but so is the sexualization of lesbians. it happens all the time.

• so much for not making it a competition, with the “at least lesbians get to have partners”

• they literally have like 50000 sexualities at this point and you’re seriously claiming they’re insisting on fighting for the word lesbian just because they have no other option? they’re being fought on this too. they just don’t give a shit about us. and they deserve to be called out for that.

You know, as a gay guy, it’s understandable why you wouldn’t feel the same way towards this issue. But using an experience that is entirely different to deny the experiences of lesbians, minimize every problem they bring up, and essentially tell them to shut up and get over it is fucked up. We already have almost nowhere where we can even talk because of these people (while gay men still have that). There is a reason why we are being affected differently than you on certain issues and a lot of it comes down to sexism and institutional power. People should not be shouted down and accused of wanting to be victims for acknowledging very obvious differences in treatment. Saying lesbians are more fetishized than gay men and that straight and bi women often pretend to be lesbians is objectively true. It isn’t an attack on gay men to speak about it in one of the only places we even have, against people who outnumber and harass us. Those are men AND women. That has nothing to do with being the bigger victim overall. It is a specific issue, and extremely obvious.

Yet it seems like you don’t even TRY to listen. Its extremely crappy, especially coming from someone who SO FREQUENTLY vents about their personal issues online. And I always upvoted you for it, even on drop the T. It would never occur to me to hear something like a gay man saying “we fear violence from straight men” and tell him to shut up because those lesbians on the bus in London got beat up, or say “well women fear it too so get over it”. But it seems like that’s very natural for you to do, and it’s a shame given that again, I’ve always been supportive (though a lurker) when I saw you talking about how you felt. I really hope you stop doing stuff like this.