I have a serious question

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[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

I don't like it.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Why?

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

Because it sucks. You want to live a hard and boring life with no meaning or gain from that hardship? It's literally a punishment.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

My life is pretty awesome imo. Kinda makes me feel bad you're miserable. I feel like you're missing out on enjoying life over something you can't change.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Exactly

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

So you can't change your gender, but you might be able to change how you think about it. Reframe how you view it. We agree on the basics but you think it's awful and I think it's awesome. You'd be happier if you thought it was awesome too.

You gotta learn to love yourself despite your flaws. I mean I get drunk and act a fool, but that's who I am. It's not great, but if I hated myself for it I'd live in misery. All I can do is try my best and try to be satisfied with that.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That's easy for you to say; because you already like it. You can't change what you like and don't like.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's easy for me to say, but it wasn't easy for me to do. https://youtu.be/6ldAQ6Rh5ZI

You gotta learn to be grateful for what you do have instead of resentful about what you don't. Like those pictures that can be a rabbit or a duck depending on how you look at it.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do, but my circumstances impact me in a way that's impossible to ignore.

I also think a lot of people who say they're grateful are really in denial because of toxic positivity. You're not allowed to talk about how the world is bad, you have to sit there and pretend like it's paradise overall while living through hell everyday, in our case a hell that doesn't even compare to most peoples' lives on the planet. It's almost like someone doesn't want you to realize we're in a bad place...and maybe that's the case. It's a very sophisticated shadowban, only instead of a ban it's a place of torment. Literally all of nature is founded on it. And there's necessarily a lot more going on behind the curtain than we can see, they want us to fall for the laughable idea that this mind prison just popped up out of nowhere with no cause, and if you question the nature and reality narrative you're instantly shot down.