pretends like my unique experience is the same as hers

I think you have a serious problem that is hard to explain but makes you think that your personal experiences are special. It's a sort of lack of empathy or a dissociation from others or a deep narcissism. But all those descriptions are offensive and muddy the water rather than allow you to be self reflective and grow. As useless as it might be I'm going to try just in case there is some part of you that can appreciate constructive criticism.

Doesn’t care about shit except for them selves.

This describes the reason YOU feel that your experience is different. You don't care that the same thing happened to others. You don't feel thier pain so you can't believe they felt it like you did. And what is more, you are offended that they handled it differently because it invalidates your reaction. So you react by denying that their experience is the same.

You would do much better to accept that superficial differences are not meaningful. This will give you the ability to see your own situation from a different perspective. You will have the opportunity to learn from others. From thier mistakes AND thier successes. If you can accept that there are others who handle situations better than you do then you can learn from them and do better for yourself.