What's the point of living if you have no chance of a happy life?

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[–]jet199Instigatrix 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Why work if you don't like it?

Why not be a welfare queen?

The fact is people will choose meaning over happiness every time.

You work because you want a meaningful life but you obviously aren't giving enough of your time to what you actually care about.

Either change job to something you'll be proud of or start doing more of the things you personally care about in your spare time. You appreciate crappy jobs more when the money pays for the stuff you actually want to do.

I mean if you really feel that bad why not throw it in and just spend your whole life enjoying yourself, go out and find good things rather than waiting for them to happen. You can leave off worrying about being a burden until the money runs out.

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Why work if you don't like it?

It's not working a job that's the problem, in fact I'm still in uni. It's just the amount of effort required to pull through each day and survive, all for another day that's more likely than not going to be a bad one. And my energy and patience is running out.

Why not be a welfare queen?

For one I don't believe that's moral. Two, I'm actually not a woman (although I really wish I was).

The fact is people will choose meaning over happiness every time.

Shouldn't meaning lead to happiness?

start doing more of the things you personally care about in your spare time

Yeah, that's kind of the problem because not only is my stupid brain so messed up that it can't do anything right, but even if it could I'm incapable of enjoying anything or feeling more than the slightest positive things. Even my physical senses don't give me anything vibrant anymore.

I mean if you really feel that bad why not throw it in and just spend your whole life enjoying yourself, go out and find good things rather than waiting for them to happen.

Because that's not the problem. I'm incapable of enjoying myself, because my brain is so bad. A lot more of happiness is hardwired than anyone likes to admit, but I'm hard to bluepill.

[–]jet199Instigatrix 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Uni is hard because you are isolated and all the breeder burden is on you. You don't get support like you do when working in a team.

If you think you're smart it's easy to think you should do everything on your own to prove how great you are but that's not good for either mental health or your career long term.

You need to access the support you do have. Go talk to someone, work somewhere public like the library rather than in your room, etc.

The fact is uni is a short term thing. The world of work is not anything like that.

I also have naturally low happiness. But that just means I constantly think about putting myself in the way of what makes me happy (which is not always an immediate feeling). Certainly walking in green spaces once a day does great things over time.

And no meaning doesn't always lead to happiness, it's a different feeling. One is joy in the moment the other makes you want to keep going.

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Uni isn't the problem at all. It's my head. I could walk into heaven right now and still feel just barely good. It isn't that much work to survive, but it's awful when you're so burnt out and know that you're probably only earning another bad day.