He’s ruggedly handsome but would he kill for your tomato plants?

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[–]goobandit[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (34 children)

It seems this way to you because, and correct me if I’m wrong, you’re only listening to other male perspectives on women. Women will undoubtedly have a different perspective, but are you open to hearing it?

If you don’t know by now, the expectations placed on you are unnecessary. Sure, there’s regular human stuff everyone does, or “should” do.

Maybe I'm supposed to want that somehow, but I certainly don't.

It’s up to you how you want your life to be, and I obviously don’t know your circumstances, but what exactly would you lose by doing what you want instead of what’s expected of you?

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (33 children)

Women will undoubtedly have a different perspective, but are you open to hearing it?

I have and a lot of them actually agree with me. Males actually get a taste of the other side, since puberty doesn't really change women all that much. Everyone is female initially, so males become so over time. I must say so far it has only been a negative progression, and it looks like it'll keep getting worse too. The problem is I'm a disposable resource, and our bodies and even our brains treat us like it.

what exactly would you lose by doing what you want instead of what’s expected of you?

The bigger problem is I literally can't due to biology. My personality alone must be androgen-insensitive somehow. And society will only tolerate nonconformity in males to a certain extent; since we are only worth what we provide in nature, human instinct is to rid of us if they perceive us as not benefitting their tribe.

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    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (31 children)

    I don't have any skills at all. Unfortunately practice doesn't do a whole lot when you've got no talent. I'm completely starved of things to enjoy. I have urges for things I'm not suited to do. My happy emotions are extremely dull even if I could do anything right. Everything about me is so messed up.

    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (30 children)

    you should go to college for a legit major, you're decently smart.

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (29 children)

    I am, and I've never even had to study for my major classes because I'm far beyond everyone else. But as much as I know, I'm useless because I can't get anything together or keep things straight, or have creative ideas and solutions, or anything really. All I can do is a little mess of something that took me way too long to create, and I only get worse not better.

    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (22 children)

    You have trouble concentrating? Sounds like brain fog. Can be caused by different viruses.

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (21 children)

    I think it's caused by genetics and also growing up. My brain is probably trying to orient itself to the tribal functions I would fulfill if I were a normally functioning social person, but that is not the case. So basically I consciously want one thing, but the rest of my brain/body assumes I want something completely different. Thus a severe talent/passions mismatch.

    [–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (20 children)

    genetics? Do your mom or dad or any other relatives have similar issues? Might also be autism.

    [–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (19 children)

    I do have autism, but I know that's not it because my problems weren't nearly as bad when I was younger. I also know other people with autism who don't have these issues and are actually the opposite.

    [–]goobandit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

    This sounds like it could be because of anything from anxiety, depression, low testosterone, shit diet, the list goes on. I mean, everyone’s hormones are fucked right now from stress and diet. But maybe this is a case of confrontation. You’re a male so have you gotten tested for low testosterone? Maybe you could confront your maleness with bro science?

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    The last thing I need is more testosterone.

    My diet is fine and I'm an athlete. I almost certainly have anxiety and depression, although the latter is probably a result of my situation right now since I didn't always have it.

    [–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    you should get that test tested. Pretty much all men are low on it, and you make some soft weak posts here that are indicative of it.

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    Well it may be what started a lot of my problems in the first place, so the lower the better.