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[–]Jillyjanejan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Lesbianese said that hypersexuality is usually a sign of trauma or severe mental illness. I asked if that only applies to women, because I've never seen anyone say that about hypersexual men. I was speaking in general terms and not just referring the person in this post, so her mania is irrelevant.

[–]yousaythosethings 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Hypersexuality is a medical term and yes it is a sign of a mental disorder in men too. I know a man with hypersexuality as a symptom of his mental disorder. And hypersexuality is not just a high sex drive. It's about a compulsion to engage in certain sexual behavior, especially risky sexual behavior or in inappropriate places or times. It's a symptom of a disorder when it interferes with their ability to live their life.

Edit: For examples of men who clearly have some kind of hypersexuality component to what is likely histrionic personality disorder (or something similar), I refer you to Joe Exotic of Tiger King fame and Jonathan "Jessica" Yaniv, who lives in my nightmares.

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you, that's all I asked. Third time's the charm I guess

[–]Lesbianese 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry for not replying. Saidit app doesn't tell me when I get new replies, have to check manually. Yeah, it's concerning even in men, don't think men are meant to be obsessed (and I mean that in a clinical sense, like OCD obsessed) with sex.

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

But let's be real. No one is going to tell a man that he must have trauma because he's compulsive about sex lol

[–]yousaythosethings 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m doing that right now. And the solution isn’t to pretend like it’s not there in women, but to call a spade a spade with men too. I think the problem is that a lot of people have trouble seeing the effects of trauma when the effects are less emotional. And I do believe due to hormones and socialization at least, that women do tend to be more outwardly emotive so the symptoms are easier to recognize. In reality, we need to expand our understanding about what the effects of trauma look like.

Edit: The reason I'm coming across strong here is because I see this widespread attitude that certain mental health conditions are over-diagnosed in women when I have not seen evidence that that's the case. I've just seen that they need to be more properly identified in men. I meet so many women who are obviously dealing with something difficult and often textbook and they have no idea. And I think about how I've basically lost one of by best friends because of her families unwillingness to recognize her obvious textbook mental illness. I've also seen this attitude used to defend the porn industry when it preys on traumatized women.