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[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

But let's be real. No one is going to tell a man that he must have trauma because he's compulsive about sex lol

[–]yousaythosethings 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m doing that right now. And the solution isn’t to pretend like it’s not there in women, but to call a spade a spade with men too. I think the problem is that a lot of people have trouble seeing the effects of trauma when the effects are less emotional. And I do believe due to hormones and socialization at least, that women do tend to be more outwardly emotive so the symptoms are easier to recognize. In reality, we need to expand our understanding about what the effects of trauma look like.

Edit: The reason I'm coming across strong here is because I see this widespread attitude that certain mental health conditions are over-diagnosed in women when I have not seen evidence that that's the case. I've just seen that they need to be more properly identified in men. I meet so many women who are obviously dealing with something difficult and often textbook and they have no idea. And I think about how I've basically lost one of by best friends because of her families unwillingness to recognize her obvious textbook mental illness. I've also seen this attitude used to defend the porn industry when it preys on traumatized women.