So a friend came out as bi, I guess? (Bi people help) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT
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I have not been here in a while. It’s not that we are not “free” to do it, it’s that it is pointless. You can ask 100 women out, maybe 1-5 of those will be open to serious dating or marriage with a woman. Then comes whether they personally find you attractive and dates go well. Your suggestion is great for bi and straight looking for men and maybe casual encounters with women. It does not help lesbians
The beauty of this community beyond the T by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT
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You made a targeted comment hitting on someone that she clearly knows and cares for, and then insulted them for being annoyed by it... an asshole and a manipulative one at that. Either confront directly in PM or shut up. Acting like a 12 year old...
Feeling totally crazy after meeting a girl off tinder. by [deleted] in Lesbians
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Well it seems like you’re not used to attention from attractive people
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If someone vastly more attractive than you wants to date, there’s a good chance there’s a reason why they’re doing that. Most hot people pair with other hot people... the reason the “hot but crazy” stereotype exists is that the ones who are hot, but too crazy for the other hot people, go for people lower down... the average ones who will put up with it because of looks.
You took a girl that is addicted to more than one hard drug, recently moved to a place where she knows no one to escape people (bad sign... sign that she is drama and undtable), told you inappropriately personal stuff immediately (bad sign), suffering from multiple traumas, never been with a woman without alcohol (another sign that this is not going to work), and told yourself you were in love because she was hot, listened to you, and good in bed when you were lonely. The red flags are everywhere and probably would’ve only worsened with time. At least she had the sense to try to work on herself first
With Keira victory, a reminder that transing really hurts LGB kids, especially lesbians by MezozoicGay in LGBDropTheT
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This won’t change anything... all the “trans kids” will be on Reddit and Twitter hearing “yes you are trans of course you are amazing, they are so bad, you are so trans”. That will get conditioned for years. As soon as they are older the transition starts.
Then what is a lesbian?
3 years ago by peaked2020 to /s/Lesbians from i.imgur.com
Why do some women want to be lesbian so bad?
Anti-Master Doc document circulating on social media, comphet-supporting "lesbians" are losing their minds by [deleted] in Lesbians
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I agree that the master doc is silly and am happy to see pushback on it finally... and it’s woke so I’m glad that they can’t immediately say TERF...
But this author... don’t like her either. She keeps saying lesbians can like men basically and that our definition needs to be clarified. As if people don’t understand what the word lesbian means she even says “bi dykes” are valid... over snd over she makes this point that lesbians should not have to not be attracted to men.
Then she says some things are TERF that are not. For example she says seeing feminine men as women is TERF. But TERFs say all men, no matter how feminine are just men and even trans women are just men...
From my point of view, attraction is based on your Impression of the other person. Losing attraction when their good/required qualities are proven wrong is natural. by dilsency in LGBDropTheT
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It sounds like you’re just straight with some sort of trauma causing you to have confusing sexual things. If you hate everything about men and have never been attracted to a real one... if you hate gay sex... if you’re incapable of loving a man... then I doubt you are gay . Or maybe you just need a guy who is nicer and more respectful.
''Aromantic'' makes no sense. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
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Most people don’t is also not a reasonable statement... the person you’re responding to made a lot of fair criticism and you ignored most of it... their point was not just “I don’t like you” at all
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Finally someone told him. So many posts just overcome with his stresses and life problems. Almost always very homophobic, sexist, aggressive, and overall seeming depressed. Reptile seems like he needs to go outside rather than be so on here... maybe to talk with family or friends on the phone
They are not even hiding that they are MRA anymore: "Remove women-centric language when speaking about abortions and reproductive rights" by VioletRemi in GenderCritical
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No one seems to be clamoring that the MRAs need to include trans men.
Discussing the trans-trend: why is it happening, and how will it end? by QueenBread in GenderCritical
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Rowling was high up in the left’s politics... I suppose it would need to be a man...
Does anyone else lose respect for people when they put their (very obvious) pronouns in their social media bios? by arcticbasket in GenderCritical
How are pronouns the same as nazis and racists... some TRA stupid logic here.
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Your ideal world is only useful for bi and straight... it’s not very easy to find a woman who is open to dating other women. It seems like the thing a bi woman with very little experience with women would say...
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If you are capable of being attracted to vagina and penis you are bisexual... it’s not “purity”... making this about racism is pathetic
So many women being confused by master doc... by peaked2020 in Lesbians
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I don’t care about internet points enough to try to please people who could easily just not click on something. There are posts I have no interest in but I don’t mind... Have a good day
LGB Alliance trying to get more men involved by HelloMomo in LGBDropTheT
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I never said it was only radfems behind it, I said that they were a big reason for it and do political protests
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Then click on them less often, no one is forcing you
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You can also just not click on threads you have no interest in
So many women being confused by master doc...
Remember to spread the word about this place! by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT
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It can’t become as active as before... for someone to be here they would have ti make a new account. And only come here for lgbt things.
''Bisexual lesbian'' - Wot? 🤡🤡🤡 by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
It’s not such a mystery...
Bi women who want attention and don’t respect lesbians
Trans allies who want to make all definitions, especially lesbian more inclusive
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Yes they do... they were a big reason for some things about trans education in schools getting overturned recently. Again in the UK especially their groups are pretty influential and write to politicians. They also tend to spread awareness of predatory situations such as Jessica Yaniv among others... often they are the ones who find these people and lead to news stations picking up the story. Then public opinion changes.
Plus you have to keep in mind that they are a small, widely hated group with a lot of opposition, it’s hard to advocate in that situation. The opposition is much bigger, supported by a lot of funding and companies. Does not have to be anonymous... So many people are afraid to associate their face with anti-trans things because they can lose their job for example... I will be staying anonymous for that reason though I am not a radfem. Also there is nothing wrong with an online protest, especially when you are trying to change policies pushed by organizations with more money and power than you your best chance is to reach the people... and again especially when many would be hesitant to publicly identify as radfem due to hate, violence, job loss, character attacks.
Im not an expert on LGB alliance itself, but whether or not LGB alliance specifically is good doesn’t change that we need an organization that advocates for LGB separately. And they need visibility from funding so people know that LGB does not necessarily mean TQ... most people don’t
“Homosexual” is offensive?
3 years ago by peaked2020 to /s/LGBDropTheT from i.imgur.com
“Chronic hetero monogamist” comes out as gay after breakup
Words mean nothing now
This isn’t true... radfems do a lot of activism and political protesting. Especially in the UK. They are outnumbered but they often get involved in govt and talk to officials about issues. However just because they try doesn’t mean they’ll be successful especially when they’re opposed by very highly funded orgs... but they do try. Also yes visibility of an LGB alliance is important, funding the org itself is also important.
Latebloomerlesbians once again...
"My boyfriend was nasty to me so I became a lesbian and now I've found a wonderful new boyfriend!" Straight women share their experiences of being lesbians (at 45 minutes in for that particular gem) by LesbianInExile in Lesbians
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Because, like straight men, these straight women don’t think lesbians exist... they assume it is a choice
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The girl in this video even says that she did meet the right nice boy for her. What is this...
"My boyfriend was nasty to me so I became a lesbian and now I've found a wonderful new boyfriend!" Straight women share their experiences of being lesbians (at 45 minutes in for that particular gem) by LesbianInExile in LGBDropTheT
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How can radfems say they support lesbians and do this... this is just as attention-seeking and stupid as TQ
Woman banned for being a lesbian on dating app Hinge by PeakingPeachEater in LGBDropTheT
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Because, you fool, if they just went on maybe 10 dates with a trans woman they would change their mind. Bigot.
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I have an idea...
Simply say “we are protecting trans women from transphobes by not allowing them to speak hurtful words”
“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian”
Likes one woman -> “Lesbian with a one man exception”
Apparently not putting your pronouns in your bio automatically means you're transphobic by iamcool1337 in GenderCritical
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I’d imagine their life is mostly lived on Twitter
Question About Old Subreddit for LGBDropTheT by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
Do you have some of these links?
It was growing rapidly as well... started slowly but began to boom, especially because of the Rowling debacle...
While it’s been a long time coming, I think it’s safe to say that Arielle Scarcella has now officially peaked the hardest. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT
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I’m surprised that she’s become so right wing. She was definitely not a trump supporter even a year ago. Then again, they have been the ones who have been willing to listen to her while the left has thrown her out...
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Most of us in other countries have more than just two polar options to choose from.
NYC Plastic Surgeon Says He's Training US Army Docs to Do Facial Feminization Surgeries on Male Troops by MarkTwainiac in GenderCritical
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Because there’s a difference between a surgery that aims to produce a different sexual organ and a cosmetic surgery that’s just supposed to make the person more attractive. That doesn’t go away simply because it’s not the same as a born organ.
Having a certain brow ridge or lip shape is something that happens to born women too and they don’t be t surgery. There is a difference between a trans woman wanting a nose job and a trans woman wanting to have their dick removed. Acting like these are exactly the same is absurd.
This is where radfems lose a lot of people, being so anti-trans that they take a reasonable argument and shift it to the unreasonable.
funding sex changes and maybe adam's apple removal is understandable but breast implants and facial surgery is ridiculous. women with say, wider jaws, don't get free surgery to change that regardless of how it affects their mental health. saying trans women should get that done for free implies that these features are only for men, not women, except born women who get them need to shut up while trans women dont...
Do the thigh highs and cat ears not set off alarm bells for them? by peaked2020 in LGBDropTheT
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Not to mention that if you’re holding hands, you’re implying a romantic relationship which involves sex most of the time... so you are hoping the lesbian will take your dick, just as your girlfriend instead of your hookup...
Do the thigh highs and cat ears not set off alarm bells for them?Lesbian
How do you see the trans movement in the next 5 years? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT
I’m not saying they’re doing a good job... only that they’re trying to avoid generalizing the sexes by saying “oh trans women can look any way and so can cis women”
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I think “truscum” are not as reasonable as they try to pretend they are......
Like you say they say “gender dysphoria” is a condition of being trans. Here were the gender dysphoria conditions from the Mayo Clinic: “at least two of the following:
A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics
A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics
A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender
A strong desire to be of the other gender
A strong desire to be treated as the other gender
A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender
In children, gender dysphoria diagnosis involves at least six of the following :
A strong desire to be of the other gender or an insistence that one is the other gender
A strong preference for wearing clothes typical of the opposite gender
A strong preference for cross-gender roles in make-believe play or fantasy play
A strong preference for the toys, games or activities stereotypically used or engaged in by the other gender
A strong preference for playmates of the other gender
A strong rejection of toys, games and activities typical of one’s assigned gender
A strong dislike of one’s sexual anatomy
A strong desire for the physical sex characteristics that match one’s experienced gender”
The only way to really believe in this is if you’re really sexist and think that playing with dolls is only for girls. To put it into law you would have to say women must dress feminine otherwise it wouldn’t be fair because “cis” women can be tomboys but trans women can’t.
Tucutes are just trying to apply gender equality to trans. Which is hard because trans requires lack of gender equality...
Anyone else notice how they're trying to change the meaning of GNC? by Lesbianese in LGBDropTheT
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I’ve been asked my pronouns even when I’ve specifically asked to be left alone. Some people even avoid using any pronoun for me and keep it gender neutral by default. This is consistent with what I’ve heard from fellow butches. I am a woman.
New US study on Gender Diverse: Depression affected 78%, followed by anxiety (62.2%), personality disorder (22%), and post-traumatic stress disorder (14.6%). 58.5% experienced suicidal ideation, 22% attempted suicide, and 36.6% were victims of abuse. by BEB in GenderCritical
These statistics are worse than Holocaust victims. What other group has these problems?
Comments from "Gender-Experts" and transwomen on a post about a teenage girl who found her little brother wearing her underwears and wanking on her panties defending the brother's creepy actions as "experimenting with his gender fluidity and sexuality" by FineIWillDoItMyself in GenderCritical
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We should ask these people is why they wouldn’t just buy it. If they felt some compulsion for the opposite sex underwear, especially as an adult, they can find them for the price of a soft drink. They make the choice to wear the ones that belong to other women instead, stealing them, sometimes masturbating into the panties. Not even normal clothing but underwear. It has to be a fetish. You don’t see FTM behaving in such a disgusting way most of the time.
Not even asked... demanded. If vagina is ever mentioned without an their penis, they all correct and harass the offender.
This is far from the only post along these lines I’ve seen on that subreddit. Once the trans brigade begins, the mods normally shut down the thread and delete it.
Female historian complains there’s no way to demand a uterus emoji without sounding “TERF-y” by BEB in GenderCritical
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For a historian she sure seems to have missed the disastrous effects of censorship throughout history.
Do they not realize they're making things more stereotypical... by anxietyaccount8 in GenderCritical
They are... when I was younger, I knew many other butch lesbians. It wasn’t hard to find us in the bars... many of the butches that are my age are still butch. Then it was more that you have your body and you have your mind, and they are not in conflict, you just have your own personality. So they made peace with it.
The young ones? All gone... You try to date and it’s 500 femmes for every one butch. They are all trans or non-binary now. They feel the distress because they’re told that women do not look like them or feel like them. They are masculine because they are boys, they say.
SNL Shits on JKR and Whole Other Misogynistic Monologue by Anon123 in GenderCritical
How does anyone believe this... yes, white women had MORE power than say, Asian women in western countries. But they were still oppressed and legally seen as property, similar to a child.
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It’s such a disconnect between the privileged and powerful and the people. How many people even know what girldick, cissexist, trans misogynistic, TERF, mean?
Well, if they admit to sexism, they would have to also admit that women are historically disadvantaged compared to men... meaning that they would have to acknowledge that many of these trans women are coming from a power position into an oppressed class and telling them the new rules. And we can’t have that.
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She isn’t even simply being criticized... she’s being torn apart and considered worthless. I can only think of similar levels of hate being directed towards true monsters like Epstein. Yet this for a woman who has consistently fought for minorities for decades.
The true irony is that both sides of this debate are dominated by upper middle class white people. Most of the non-binary and trans people I know are white. You could argue that relatively wealthy white feminists allowing trans women by self ID into women’s prison are doing “white feminism” because they will not know the fear of letting any man who asks for it into a women’s prison... most of the fear will come to women who are more disadvantaged such as poor women, disabled, racial minorities. But only when they disagree does it become “white feminism”
Toddler called non-binary mom? "she" by Eurowoman24 in LGBDropTheT
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Wow and they are raising a “theybie”. Why do this to a baby...
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So even a baby can tell what a woman is but she can’t... amazing world...
It depends on whether or not there is an advantage to doing that at that moment...
If they’re talking about motherhood, and women are speaking about their experiences, they must be included.
If lesbians are speaking about their lives... “non-binary lesbians are here”
But when there is something about being a mom that they don’t like... such as being called “Karen”... now they are not a woman.
Sexuality is a personality trait, according to commenters on r/lgbt (but not upvotes?) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT
Sure... but there are several “bi” saying the same.
Lesbians are heteronormative because they wont make the first move... on a man. by artetolife in LGBDropTheT
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These comments seem strange to me... this is a problem that affects practically all lesbians. Women are generally not very upfront. Particularly if you’re butch, many women do expect you to be a pseudo man. I understand how they feel and think this is frustrating too...
75% of California voters oppose sex change surgeries and sterilizing hormones for children under 18 by worried19 in GenderCritical
The stats are still worrying... only 44% disagree that a trans woman should be able to give vaginal exams to women who only want female practitioners?
Now that's a new one: a gay man refusing to date transmen is on par with racial genocide by 8bitgay in LGBDropTheT
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Why not just say “female”...?
Shit hits fan on gay male group gone TQ+ by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT
Because many of the gays and lesbians agree with them... we are fighting ourselves as well.
What is OFAB?
What a surprise! TiF arrested during Seattle protest wants to be a woman when it comes to jail... by BEB in GenderCritical
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I wonder how many trans women who don’t “fully pass” have decided to stay in men’s jail as a result? What... zero? I wonder why!
Literati rally to JK Rowling’s defence in row over Cormoran Strike book by [deleted] in GenderCritical
You’re right... however, it’s still women who for some reason prioritize men over themselves and other women. They don’t even really seem to think about it...
Your authoritarianism is showing... "Pronouns are not preferred, they're mandatory" why do they keep revising their own rules? by assignedcopatbirth in GenderCritical
It seems they do understand the meaning of “preference” then as well... anyone remember genital preference?
New York state senate also has men in women's prison bill! Pls object now, before it's too late! by BEB in GenderCritical
You are outnumbered... they will pass it. The aftermath may shift things in your favor.
The babies at SPOTIFY threatening to strike over Abigail Shrier’s Joe Rogan interview - Wah! by BEB in GenderCritical
I for one will gladly take their place.
California governor signs bill to allow transgenders into women's prisons under the banner of LGBTQ+ rights - expect backlash in... by BEB in LGBDropTheT
From what I have seen... they purposely keep the media very quiet even after the law is passed. Just lobbying silently, voting with their money...
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No... they won’t need to worry about prison. Most of the non-binary kids are upper middle class white people. Thinking of the poor people would give them wrinkles.
Why dont LGBT organizations use their donation money to keep lesbian bars open? by [deleted] in Lesbians
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Lesbians don’t party... especially after we turn 25.
What do these young lesbians think womanhood even is? by [deleted] in Lesbians
How does she say she’s coming out as bisexual... yet in her profile it’s “I’m gay”... and in so many of her songs it’s about being lesbian?
The definition of lesbian: the googoogaga factor by Skipdip in Lesbians
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She wrote an essay about how she thought vaginas were disgusting for years and was asked by another woman who slept with her if she was even liked to women at all. She calls them gross and says they have “nasty liquid” that she would force herself to eat out for her girlfriend. She had to learn to like them after months of forcing it with her girlfriend... then she marveled at how she finally didn’t feel like she wanted a man watching them or had any desire for a boyfriend. Then concludes it saying she still has some desire for men and May sleep with them sometimes. That too after sleeping with multiple men in the past because of “society”... It isn’t people being combative, she is not gay and I frankly find it disturbing that she forced herself to learn to like a sex organ.
This sounds incredibly bisexual... and as others said way TMI. No wonder you are so confused and feeling the need to write so many paragraphs. Its not the fact that you are not a “gold star”, it’s the way you describe things, what you focus on, the way your attraction goes. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual and having your attractions to both sexes fluctuate over time.
Penis-averse lesbian asks for advice on ask transgender by Mangomart in LGBDropTheT
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...How dare they spread that this coercion is just in the minds of “TERFs” and not real. Almost all of these comments are encouraging her to have sex with this person despite being repulsed by their body... Many of the comments also reference their
relationships where their partner was repulsed by them, afraid of their penis, totally uninterested... and they persisted until the woman relented, calling her a bigot until the day.
It’s disgusting... I’m afraid for younger lesbians.
“Right, but I'm saying that I the difference is linguistic. 'Genital preference' shouldn't be a thing, because it's willful. Aversion, I get. Aversion doesn't mean you categorically deny the situation, it means you have a certain willingness to be proven wrong about your biases.“
In other words... everyone should be open to penises... is this person a psychopath?
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When did it become normal for people to have sex with people whose bodies they cannot even stand to look at, are afraid of... why would anyone encourage this, trans or not? To be told to just “not touch it” and continue having relations with the person? The consistent language in the post as well, framing the mere thought of someone who will not accept a penis as exclusionary and hateful.... It’s not rape, but... it’s somewhere in that area of a sort of non-consent.
I guess I should count my luck for sleeping with people who I actually enjoyed touching... I can’t imagine asking someone to have sex with me and simply “not look at” my vagina. This has nothing to do with being trans. This behavior would be filthy from anyone.
Have you ever had a foreign girlfriend? What country was (is) she from? What did you like and dislike about her? Have you ever wanted to date a girl (woman) from another country (let's assume she would be living in your country already)? What country would that be and why? by Ricky_Ticky in Lesbians
Spanish women are wonderful. When I was younger, I worked in Barcelona for a while and had quite a few great nights... that accent makes anything sound nice.
I dated an amazing Scottish woman. A yoga teacher and with that accent... very hard to stay away. Ultimately we didn’t work out due to differing obligations. When I was working, she was not and vice versa. Kept her as a Facebook friend...
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If they’re unaware, sure... teenagers especially can be pressured when they don’t know who they are and don’t understand their sexual feelings, or worry about their parents reactions. These types of people will not even themselves realize they are lesbians or will maybe know but try to get rid of it, hiding it or attending conversion therapy. It is very different when someone is an out and proud “lesbian” and sleeps with men, then whisking it away with some excuse about how society made them have sex with the men in their office, and fluidity made them get a boyfriend... which we see very often in the LGBT community.
Yes, I noticed by your comment below that you seem to have not understood the original post. The entire question this writer is bringing is about how fluid lesbians can be, raising a debate about whether women who like men, but prefer women, are lesbians. That is the person’s entire point in posting.
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The context of the post is debating whether women who only want to marry women, but still enjoy men, are lesbians... as well as whether lesbians can be “sexually fluid”. Whether lesbians can sleep with men for “shits and gigs”. They are not. Lesbians don’t like men. That’s the relation... that is what the post is about.
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What a ridiculous question...
Almost no one really thinks that everyone must be “gold star”... from what I have seen, people generally twist this into “gold star gatekeeping” when what is really being discouraged is bisexual women pretending to be lesbians. Everyone knows that there is a difference between say, a woman from a poor community in India marrying a man to phrase her parents and a woman in NYC sleeping with boys for her enjoyment. Or god forbid, a rape... almost no one thinks these things mean that you are attracted to men. This is purposely twisted and made to be “so confusing” by women who are intentionally misusing the lesbian label and trying to claim that it is too unreasonable of a concept to not be interested in men. That fluidity is necessary because how could anyone not want a man? They think this way because they are bisexual, and homophobic at that...
Being a bisexual woman who wants to marry a man does not make you straight. Being a bisexual woman who wants to marry a woman does not make you a lesbian. Particularly if you are sleeping with men as well, dating them, if you are attracted to men... you will never in your life know what it is like to be a gay woman. This “sleeping with men for shits and gigs” you talk about is called bisexuality or heterosexuality. If they are enjoying men they are not lesbians.
And they know this as well. This is not about them being confused, this is about them seeking to use the lesbian label under false pretenses. If you could not spread that narrative here under the idea that being a lesbian is so complicated and confusing, and oh sexuality fluidity this and that, when it truly is not... that would be great. This bizarre line of thinking has led to us being flooded with bi lesbians and other nonsense.
Aces and Aros by Beth-BR in LGBDropTheT
That happens with everything... a lot of girls also don’t think they are gay and think they just don’t want a marriage. Or that they just don’t want children... or that they just think kissing isn’t so interesting. Or that they simply prefer to focus on school... or that nobody is good enough for them... or that they are too busy... the mind will find many ways to not understand that it’s different from others, going under the normal society’s rules.
None of this means that we need to include all of these communities in LGB.
For totally different reasons than LGB though... they agave more similar problems to child free on reddit than LGB.
"You can still get pregnant even though you're a lesbian" A RANT by me by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
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But what about the lesbians who are male-presenting non-dysphoric closeted transwomen in relationships with men? We need to include them too!
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Not directed towards you... but I can’t imagine a dick that won’t be touched being a selling point. If you enjoy penises you will probably want to touch it. If you don’t you will want to touch a vagina or maybe just have no sex at all , not just avoid touching the other person’s genitals. What sort of sex is that?
Lol it didn’t occur to me to connect this topic to those people... it really is ridiculous that we’ve gotten to the point that these women will legitimately claim to be lesbians who like men. I feel like we need a “straight man who likes to sleep with men. all straight men can meet their perfect boy. sexuality is fluid!” to show the absurdity to others.
They don’t even really mean trans women generally... specifically they mean a trans woman with a penis. Meaning that what they are really saying is that you may enjoy a penis one day...
I hate how lesbianism is seen as inherently political by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
It’s so funny to me that women like that exist... something must be missing in their lives to have such a void? Or maybe they’re just very stupid...
Unfortunately I have met a few... they thrive in college. Normally they cool down after some time in the real world... but sadly, that normally comes with a husband on the way. They will often claim that they used to be lesbians but are now bisexual.
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Agreed on all fronts...
However, I have some sad news... I think much of the reasons or this is that for many women, lesbian IS an “identity” and not a sexuality.
So for political or social reasons, they will take on this “lesbian identity”, and they truly believe that they are lesbians regardless of their true attractions because they know others like them... who can then, as a group, represent LESBIANS.
So when someone meets a radical feminist who preaches the gospel of lesbianism, who believes it with all her heart... but enjoys men.
So when someone meets a trans activist who proudly wears the lesbian flag... but enjoys men.
So when a man sleeps with a woman who swears to him that she is a real true lesbian, and that he is just so sexy that even lesbians will want him...
Of course they will see it as a political identity. Those women represent it as such.
All of these will be VERY offended if you suggest that they are anything but lesbian.
Some of this also is just the general LGBT plague... but these women really do shoulder a large amount of the blame. As lesbians have become more accepted as well as more sexualized, they only grow in number. When they are large in number, other women seeking a political identity see them as an example... and also declare their lesbianism. So the problem compounds.
So sick of these straight/bi women suddenly realizing they are lesbians conveniently after their male partner decides he's a woman... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
Fair... it’s a shame because these women will most likely continue dating men if their relationship ends.
Imagine being so deep in a cult that you believe that the Latin word for "two times" doesn't mean two. All while ignoring evidence. by LasagnaRossa in LGBDropTheT
Not sure if I buy that they’re malicious as much as maybe stupid... or maybe childish?
I picture a kid running through a department store. Then they find the LGBT aisle. All the marketing says that it’s such a cool and unique club. They want a ticket into the club. They want a ticket into every club that makes them socially aware and special. They want to belong, like teenagers do.
Maybe our marketing team needs to tone it down a bit... show pictures of us eating Indian takeout on the bed on a Saturday night. Haha
''Lesbian still means attraction to women and nb people only'' by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
I feel pity for these people...
It looks like, on some level, they recognize that the concept of being “gay” is being erased... for that matter, the concept of being STRAIGHT is also being erased...
But their ideology conflicts with that... so they’re desperately trying to preserve SOME meaning in these words while trying to pretend they aren’t the ones erasing them... so they expand it just a little bit at a time.