Were you bullied as a kid?

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[–]MrFahrenheit46 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was bullied in that weird way that girls sometimes do where they act fake nice and make a ton of passive-aggressive comments. Thanks to my Asperger's I didn't really pick up on any of it. I was very socially awkward, communicated through movie quotes (think Abed Nadir on steroids), and made animal sounds when I was excited, so it's kinda miraculous that I wasn't treated worse.

[–]begonia_skies 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Of course, I basically came out of the womb and straight into a gay parade. I hated all girly things and I desperately loved the ghostbusters, batman, the ninja turtles, power rangers, etc etc. I insisted on wearing boy clothes because I hated girl things, and children don't have a lot of physical identifiers for gender other than clothing and hair (mine was a curly mess), so I very frequently ran into problems at school. The bathroom was the worst and there were multiple times I was told to leave the girls bathroom because I was boy. I grew up to become a huge lesbian (shocker) but I'm actually not very butch at all as an adult, and I actually am quite feminine in many ways. I wear make up, I'm girly about skin care, I like decorating and cooking, typical "woman" types of things. But yes, I was bullied horribly, would not recommend.

EDIT: I forgot to discuss impact. I rarely think about it these days, actually it is something very few people know about me since I don't read as butch in present day. Even my family doesn't know the extent because I just never discuss it. Has it impacted me? I'm sure, but I'm quite adept at reading situations, a skill you learn quickly as a young bullied child to read situations for safety/threats. Again, I would rather not have had those experiences, but they have shaped me into the woman that I am today.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, as I was almost the only ginger in city.

Has it had an impact on your life?

I still have scars on body and mental issues.

[–]FrostyNugs 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I mean, I was an awkward little greasy gremlin. I kind of had it coming. It did teach me how to use humor to cope and how to be less cringey, so honestly it was a helpful albeit painful experience overall 3/5 stars.

[–]xv_xx 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Nobody, nobody deserves bullying. I appreciate you using humour, I do it myself, and I also know where you're coming from, but let's don't justify bullying in any way shape or form. You didn't have it coming.

[–]sootsprite 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from. I look back at my childhood self and I think it's a miracle that I wasn't bullied (teased, definitely, but not seriously tormented) in kindergarten or middle school, as another "greasy little gremlin" who would have been a prime bully victim in many cases.

[–]xv_xx 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was bullied, but not often for being gay although it did happen a few times, the reality is that I grew up in very liberal environments and attended relatively liberal schools -- not quite woke, but open enough. Most of the bullying I received was from being too tall, too skinny or too curvy (lovely world when you can be bullied for looking like a stick figure one year and also for looking like Jessica Rabbit two years later), too bookish, being Canadian (in an American school).... Like u/FrostyNugs, I used humour to get past everything, and always had a bit of thick skin, but I have also discovered through counseling in recent years that the bullying did leave some psychological scars.

[–]Lesbianese 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not for being a lesbian- I was pulled out of school before I was at an age where that was a thing kids even thought about. I did get made fun of by other kids for being physically slow (joint problems) and just because I wasn't well-liked by one girl. Worst was being bullied by the teacher, she was nasty to me because I was slower than the other kids both physically and mentally (I spent my childhood severely sleep deprived), openly making comments about it in front of the whole class, that's why I was pulled out. I was about 7 at the time.

So, yeah, I guess it had an impact in terms of getting pulled out? But psychologically, not really. It didn't take long for me to realize she was just a bitter old woman after I was out of her class.

[–]lmaonope333 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

depends what you consider bullying

[–]DirgoHoopEarrings 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, and I don’t wanna talk about it. But I did write a book...

[–]Anniesworld 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Basically a copy paste of my response in the highschool thread

I was in school from 09-2012, at the time in my school people still though it was cool to make fun of something by saying that's so gay.I was quiet and shy so I really didn't date or make my gayness known to anyone. Being shy probably made me more of a target for people to bully me. You know the kind of bulling where you can hear people whisper dike and lesbian but not to your face.That happened a lot in highschool and college, I usually tried to ignore it ,but I stood up for myself a few times. I really hated that people used "that's so gay " and told one of my coworkers how offensive I found it since I was gay. He was actually a very polite mormon guy and he felt bad that he was saying something hurtful so nonchalantly. Another time where things got physical was in culinary class, I used to wear plaid shirts in school and I heard some guys making fun of me in the back. I was in the middle of chopping vegetables when the jock guy if the group came up behind me and grabbed my hips to pretend he was humping me for a laugh. I turned around and showed him the knife between us and said "are you serious I'm holding a knife". He never tried anything again and I actually made some friends with the guys who were laughing at his jokes. High school was an awkward time for me but I really became more of myself during college and at work.

[–]Fuckyoucensorship 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Late to the game but ya. Especially in middleschool. High school it was just "i ignore you, you ignore me" no one picks on the kid they forget is even in their class.

[–]Aurelius 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yup, that mixed with a mom who only was drunk and passed out, am abusive step dad plus a reject pedo dad destroyed me. Being a lesbian just made it worse. Now I'm just counting breaths until salvation shows it's merciful kiss of death.