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Just peaked after spending some time on r/Al when questioning my sexuality. AMA if you want.

submitted 3 years ago by ColdSoup from self.Lesbians

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[–]ColdSoup[S] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (3 children)

I'm glad you've stuck by your guns! I'm glad I figured things out without it coming to sex/marriage, although I don't really understand how any lesbian can even get past the date part without feeling very uncomfortable. Another space I went into was latebloomerlesbians and so many were married to men, after my experience this seemed like a huge mindfuck. I guess it makes sense if you live in a very backwards area and everyone's experience is different.

To answer your question. I was aware but I truly believed that this was a small minority, and that most trans women were just trying to live their lives in a way they deemed most comfortable. I thought that a group shouldn't be judged by a few bad apples but it turns out this is way more pervasive than I thought previously and has actual consequences for women. I don't think all trans people are bad or harmful, but there certainly seems to be a lot who are nowadays.

[–]TarshishJupiter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (1 child)

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