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[–]TarshishJupiter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Some women are told sex and intimacy with men will be uncomfortable, so lesbians who are goaded into marriage with men just take it as a matter of course. They just believe they're "frigid".

I used to believe marriage would be that way when I thought I was straight. I didn't look forward to the sex, but I always thought I would have to have it with a man. I'm glad I found out about being a lesbian when I was 19-20 and not later in life after getting married to a guy and having kids with him.

Yeah, I don't think all trans people are bad either, it's the ideology I believe is harmful. Similarly, I don't believe that all conservative Christians (ones who believe that women shouldn't speak or lead a church) are bad. In fact, one is my very good friend. I just believe the ideology is bad.

[–]ColdSoup[S] 11 insightful - 7 fun11 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I thought I was frigid too until recently, frigid and picky and with unrealistically high standards, and that any discomfort and lack of desire was due to trauma. It's interesting how much culture can fuck with your head.

I remember telling everyone when I was a kid that I'd never get married and that I was just going to live with my female best friend forever... Maybe that should have been a clue? 😂