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[–]piylot 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

What does "accepting" mean to you?

I was around 18/19 when I realised I was a lesbian. I was around 10 when I first noticed I was experiencing attraction to women- I didn't want to be gay and had read in a sex ed book that many girls experience that and it's a phase.

I'd say I was about 22/23 the first time I felt I enjoyed being a lesbian, but then I have periods of time where I don't enjoy it again.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Accepting means to me being comfortable with it at least in your own head and not being in denial.

I realised I was attracted to girls at the same age as you, but I tried to force myself into believing I'm only bicurious for years and seriously downplayed that attraction as something "all girls experience because women are just so much more beautiful than men. Objectively in an aesthetic sort of way." This was genuinely something I said while still thinking I'm straight haha.

I think lots of women don't enjoy being a lesbian. We enjoy our attracton to women, but lesbianism is a whole kettle of fish that comes with so many issues and obstacles we wouldn't otherwise have that at times I do wish I wasn't one, even though I've accepted that part of me will never change.

[–]VioletRemi 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think lots of women don't enjoy being a lesbian. We enjoy our attracton to women, but lesbianism is a whole kettle of fish that comes with so many issues and obstacles we wouldn't otherwise have that at times I do wish I wasn't one, even though I've accepted that part of me will never change.

And it is only society failure. Society failed us.

Main problem here is that lesbians everywhere is downplayed, almost never appearing anywhere, in mainstream media they are serving only to please men's gaze (and they are bisexuals in mainstream media anyways), even in LGBT lesbians are least represented, and now with this stupid "Transwoman is woman, so their dick is lesbian dick" agenda pushing on lesbians it is even worse. And society is all time pushing on women in general about marrying men and making kids, and that is especially hard for lesbians.

[–]HelloMomo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"all girls experience because women are just so much more beautiful than men. Objectively in an aesthetic sort of way."

That was my #1 justification for years!! "It's not my opinion if it's objectively true." It framed it as not a personal thing, so I didn't have to own it.