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[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

no matter how shitty they are but posts like these, things like this piss me off tbh. I really hope people here stop doing it, it only gives a bad picture about the place.

They're not going to, it's the main reason the regulars are here mostly. There are a few very interesting and kind people here who are always a joy to talk to... and a never-ending stream of assholes. I attempted to steer people away (sometimes shock people away) from pettiness and naval-gazing and got told to fuck off (basically.)

I had the dark thought one day that there may be people who are harvesting the nasty comments we make about these kids and sharing them with these same kids and I got alarmed.

I tried for a while to make more compassionate and empathetic posts, and to try to persuade other people to do so, but that got to be too much of an effort.

There are other, better, communities. Unfortunately I wish one existed that catered to bisexuals but there isn't. We should be used to that, though.

[–]reluctant_commenter 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I had the dark thought one day that there may be people who are harvesting the nasty comments we make about these kids and sharing them with these same kids and I got alarmed.

It also might be the case that the same kids we're posting about... are the same ones brigading us and leaving the nasty comments. To then show to each other how "nasty" LGB people are. Just a possibility. I do also worry about some comments I see on here, but overall I feel the mods have done a great job of handling them. It sounds like it's gotten to a really difficult point for them, though.

There are other, better, communities.

Just wanted to follow up on this: For LGB people? Do you know of any others? I lurk on r/tumblrinaction and s/tumblrinaction, because there are a decent amount of LGB people there, but there are no communities explicitly for us, it seems.

Unfortunately I wish one existed that catered to bisexuals but there isn't. We should be used to that, though.

I feel you. Seems like every lesbian group I've tried to join gets swarmed by TRAs, radfems that hate men and want to talk about that constantly, or bisexual haters. I just want a place to chat with other women who like women and where I can post all my same-sex memes, lol. Apparently that is a tall order at this point in time, though...

[–]hufflepuff-poet 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I just want a place to chat with other women who like women and where I can post all my same-sex memes, lol. Apparently that is a tall order at this point in time, though...

Have you checked out Ovarit's lesbian circle? I'm over there and the community is small and the sub not always the most active, but it has the foundations to become that type of space if enough normal lesbians come and stick around! It can veer into "I hate bisexuals and/or men" territory but on the whole, it's just been refreshing to be in a space with lesbians who are trying to rebuild our community, even if we're not always sure how best to go about it.

Or club monocle, it's very small and even less active than ovarit's circle but also has great bones! I recommend checking out either of those spaces and adding your voice, it would be a nice bit of sanity and compassion added to both spaces :)

[–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oof... I've avoided it because I'm very wary of radical feminism, lol. But I might have to bite the bullet and give it a shot.

I have never heard of Club Monocle. This looks great!! But it's subscription, sadly, and I worry about my payment info being connected with something like that. Do you know how much it costs? I don't see payment details on their website.

I recommend checking out either of those spaces and adding your voice, it would be a nice bit of sanity and compassion added to both spaces :)

Aw, thank you <3 well if people like you are there then I know I'll be in good company :)

[–]hufflepuff-poet 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think the subscription is necessary for Club Monocle? Atleast I haven't subscribed and I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything by not subscribing. I'm not sure how much it costs, I only use the app. The UI isn't the most intuitive!

[–]CancelPowerSuper Bi Male 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, sadly, I agree with you. I honestly think that the mod (Tumbleweedfireflies) is great and has done an amazing job moderating especially just by herself, and many posters here are pretty cool from my experience of 3 months being off-and-on here but there is also a significant amount of pettiness and unreasonable hatred here, it just makes us look so desperate. I'm seriously considering unsubscribing out of here, I don't really like to associate with communities like this tbh.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If all the rational and compassionate users unsubscribe, we'll be left with only assholes representing us. Stay and add more content that you want to see!!

Truelesbians on reddit was a shitshow at the start, basically just lesbians venting about how tired of trans shit we were and screaming about how happy they were to be away from the sausage fest that is /actual(not)lesbians. But we built it into something beautiful before the ban! That wouldn't have happened if everyone unsubbed because they were tired of the hate posts, instead women stepped up and posted more of the content they wanted to see and we became a great space for lesbians to share our struggles and successes with dating, relationships and love and life in general!! I want this space to be that for the wider LGB community too.