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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's even more simple than that:

Some people have partners who are the same sex as them. You may meet and hear about their partners just as you would partners of the opposite sex. Treat them as you would anyone else. Don't use slurs. And don't ask invasive questions.

This emphasizes community and commonality rather than setting us up as some great big Other. No one needs to be educated about the dynamics and language of sexual orientation in the workplace. That's not what the workplace is for. If anything, that encourages people to be more invasive. Nor do they need to be miseducated about LGBT history.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Perfect simplification is perfect :)

Yeah, basically all we need is for people NOT to do things. DON'T treat us differently; DON'T make a big deal out of it (or any deal at all). Which is the opposite of a big ask. And also... the opposite of what the TQ+ "ask". Namely that everyone practically stand on their fucking head to accommodate them.