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[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (6 children)

after he discovered he was basicly fucking a female on steroids

He did’t realize after the clothes came off?

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

He did, but gaslighted himself so much to pretend it was just normal for gay men to have vaginas.

After the illusion was shattered he felt very betrayed and abused, as most victims of gaslighting feel.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think his story should be a whole post, I'm fascinated. What shattered the illusion?

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What shattered the illusion?

I don't know the specific details, as I lost contact with this person, but if I were to guess I would say it was two little things: time and reflection.

But then again, his 180 on this was so sudden and strange, so there might be some other things at play in this case.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think you should share his story here in a separate post, I would like to know the deets because I haven't heard of any anecdotes of gay men dating Aideens

[–]emptiedriver 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

it really is amazing how people can get so caught in an illusion that a whole new mental category is created - they can see a trans person isn't actually the same as the sex they're trying to be, but still follow the social pressures and currents enough that they become something else than what their physical senses show them...

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's really heartbreaking.

Regardless of whatever else he was doing. It's messed up that we live in a world where LGB people are so routinely gaslighted about their own bodily experiences, like same-sex attraction.