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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

Totally unsurprising. Based on my personal experience, the kind of discrimination lesbians face is usually very different from a gay man, although I've been called disgusting for it as well. The type of discrimination lesbians face the most (that gay guys do not, or at least not so often for sure) is fetishization/sexualization by straight men. Lesbians aren't often discriminated the same way as gay men because lesbianism isn't still considered "real" by the heteronormative society. Society still holds that idea that lesbians are lesbians because of problems or trauma with men, and that lesbian sex isn't "real sex" so of course lesbians aren't going to be discriminated the same way. We're basically dismissed and "laughed at" by society. While gay men it's the opposite. A man's sexuality is instantly respected. If a man says he's a gay, no one questions it. But of course, society doesn't like gay men either and they tend to get a much more "verbal" and "physical" violent discrimination than women because of that. With lesbians, we're simply not taken seriously. It's like "ah, I bet it's just a stupid phase" or whatever. Besides this, I blame this mostly on straight men. Whether it's discrimination towards gay men or towards lesbians, it's practically always straight men who perpetuate it. I don't usually like to generalize men like this, but in this particular case, it is the truth. And I have to agree with what someone else on here said that this seems to be much more of a male problem AND that men should start to take responsability of that.

[–]censorshipment 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

I think it depends on what type of lesbian you are. I'm butch and was almost raped after being "set up" by a gay friend. I was 15 and my friend was 18. He invited me to his dorm room so his 18 year old friend, who I thought was gay, could rape me. I told them I had a girlfriend... they knew I was a lesbian. Fortunately, I'm not a petite butch. Corrective rape happens to lesbians. Does it happen to gay men?

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Corrective rape does seem to be a unique problem to lesbians. But again, who perpetuates it? Straight men. It's always straight men, whether it's towards lesbians or gay men. And I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

How strong are you to escape two men by yourself?

[–]censorshipment 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

My gay friend left the room, and I left about 3 minutes later when the guy said something sexual to me.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 9 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I almost thought you were a 6ft amazon crushing men with her legs :D

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

That was the plan all along: death by Snu Snu

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Death by snu snu is best death.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know what is worst, to get disgusted reaction or being dismissed. But at least gay men are taken seriously.

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Lesbians aren't often discriminated the same way as gay men because lesbianism isn't still considered "real" by the heteronormative society.

Ehhhh... I think that's gonna depend on other factors, like the demographics of the people you're around and maybe the area you're in. My homophobic religious family members think lesbians are just as "evil" as gay men (and they do not think bisexuality exists), and I heard classmates describing it as "disgusting" and doing social shunning type of stuff. Not as much physical harassment though if that's what you mean.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've also been called disgusting and weird for being a lesbian. I'm aware that it does happen. And I'm aware that there are lesbians who are kicked out from their homes, getting corrective rape and so many other truly terribly things. In my answer, I was speaking generally, what it's more likely to happen without specifying countries and situations. And yes, I meant physical harassment.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And yes, I meant physical harassment.

Gotcha, yeah I agree. Sorry to hear you have dealt with similar bullshit. Hope you're doing well. :)