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[–]DifferentAirGC 9 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 6 fun10 insightful - 7 fun -  (7 children)

The newest tumblr lore is that asexuals can enjoy, seek and even be obsessed with sex.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Then how would you know if you're asexual?!

[–]slushpilot 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think most of this revision of terminology can be attributed to children realizing that they've grown up a bit and now realize they hadn't experienced sex when they originally took that label.

I just wish they'd grow up a little more and drop the useless labels altogether.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

99% of asexual activism basically focuses on finding excuses why someone is still asexual despite feeling actual sexual attraction and having sex. That's why the weird shit of asexuality being a spectrum and these categories of asexuals' attitude to sex... Me an asexual way past my puberty I hate this shit so much. It makes it harder for me to accept the way I am.

[–]DifferentAirGC 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They usually think they are asexual because they have low libido (like a lot of normal people do). Or they aren't sexually attracted to the people they have sex with (in their own words, I have no idea how that works).

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As asexual myself I legit hate how they make this term basically meaningless. I see no different explanation for such people to enjoy sex aside from feeling actually attracted to a person they have sex with therefore they aren't actually asexual. Even if they think they don't feel it they must be simply in denial or have a completely different issue. Also I wonder how this type of "asexuals" discovered they are somehow different from your typical straight person.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also I wonder how this type of "asexuals" discovered they are somehow different from your typical straight person.

Me too. If you find sex enjoyable so that it becomes a compelling interest for you, even if you don't spontaneously desire sex, there's no way I can conceive of that as asexuality.

I can accept that sexual pleasure and orgasm are experienced by asexual people as pleasurable, sure. But if you're motivated to have sex because it feels good, despite lacking the carnal urge for it?

I guess that's a unique phenomena, and it's interesting, but hm... It makes things very confusing for the average person who isn't spending hours diving into all the nuances of asexuality. From the outside, it makes the asexual label very confusing and meaningless.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's so nuanced it can be easily exploited/confused by straight people, who have never felt there was anything wrong and weird about them. I had a sense of otherness since I was a teen. One day I even concluded something like: "Damn, I'm not actually straight but I'm not gay either... what am I..." but these people just had no issues with sleeping with the others and were certain of their straightness, gayness or bisexuality.