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[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also I wonder how this type of "asexuals" discovered they are somehow different from your typical straight person.

Me too. If you find sex enjoyable so that it becomes a compelling interest for you, even if you don't spontaneously desire sex, there's no way I can conceive of that as asexuality.

I can accept that sexual pleasure and orgasm are experienced by asexual people as pleasurable, sure. But if you're motivated to have sex because it feels good, despite lacking the carnal urge for it?

I guess that's a unique phenomena, and it's interesting, but hm... It makes things very confusing for the average person who isn't spending hours diving into all the nuances of asexuality. From the outside, it makes the asexual label very confusing and meaningless.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's so nuanced it can be easily exploited/confused by straight people, who have never felt there was anything wrong and weird about them. I had a sense of otherness since I was a teen. One day I even concluded something like: "Damn, I'm not actually straight but I'm not gay either... what am I..." but these people just had no issues with sleeping with the others and were certain of their straightness, gayness or bisexuality.