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[–]HelloMomo 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (6 children)

I did for a couple years around puberty. If you want to know more, I've written a whole blog post about it https://moessays.wordpress.com/2020/10/31/that-time-i-was-dysphoric/ But the short version is that my body up and changed on me and that felt like a betrayal, and it took several years to settle back into my body after that. But I did settle back into my body; I don't have dysphoria anymore, and haven't for years.

Advice:

  1. Don't dwell on it. Get on with the business of living, don't obsess over it. I know quarantine makes this harder. But if you're seriously dysphoric at present, I'm not sure that being on this forum is the best thing for you at the moment? Because it makes you think about this stuff. You don't have to spend your internet time on something like this. If you fall down the youtube wood-turning video rabbit hole, or something else like that, it might help you not have this so present in your mind?
  2. Manual labor. I think dysphoria might in some ways be just one piece of a much larger cultural problem of disassociation with our bodies. We spend too much time online were we're little avatar pictures. So many people work office jobs. I don't have much personal experience with this, but a lot of other people speak very highly of doing hard physical labor with your body, and say it really helped them combat dysphoria.
  3. CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. Dysphoria is often basically intrusive thoughts of a self-loathing variety, and CBT helps you identify them. It's not about suppressing those thoughts, but letting them pass by without giving them too much significance or treating them as literally true.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

A lot of women have body dysmorphia during puberty. I think I know less women who were liking their changes in body during puberty than ones who hated it.

[–]reluctant_commenter 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

Just wanted to say these are great suggestions, especially the CBT recommendation.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

I was skimming through and took a double take on CBT as a response to body dysphoria. Really unfortunate that acronym is shared by two such radically different things.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

What is the second thing it stands for? I thought it was just cognitive behavioral therapy?

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Cock and Ball torture. My mind was in the gutter when I read this thread, I suppose.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh man that's gross! XD I guess I am more innocent than I thought!