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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 36 insightful - 14 fun36 insightful - 13 fun37 insightful - 14 fun -  (8 children)

This is fucked up but, in the current environment, the obvious solution is stealth.

Nobody is obligated to explain why they are not attracted to someone. You can make up any reason you want, including the most frontal attack possible: you're ugly. That's not identifiably transphobic if you don't add the rest of the sentence, ... because you look like the man you obviously are.

[–]Eurowoman24 28 insightful - 12 fun28 insightful - 11 fun29 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

this will hurt since they all want to be porn star look -a - likes

[–][deleted] 27 insightful - 11 fun27 insightful - 10 fun28 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

lmfaooooo y'all we just have to be honest. Don't be shy ladies and gents. If they ask why just say the truth: you're ugly. Simple and to the point.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 26 insightful - 9 fun26 insightful - 8 fun27 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Or go for the more PC and easier to articulate: “I’m just not attracted to you.” “Why?” “Because I don’t find you attractive.” “Why not?” “I’m going now. Bye.” Consider adding a foreboding “Good luck out there!”

[–]dramasexual 22 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

the obvious solution is stealth.

Fuck that. I didn't come out of one closet to go into another one.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

As a LBL, it feels like the door to my closet is a revolving one. I came out and immediately thought "what the ever loving fuck is this?" What is happening to LGB people is being deliberately kept quiet from the general public. They don't even have the puzzle pieces to put together what is going on to lesbians right now.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 10 insightful - 10 fun10 insightful - 9 fun11 insightful - 10 fun -  (2 children)

If you’re afraid of them getting violent from calling them ugly, try:

“Our spiritual energies just aren’t syncing” “We were born under different stars” “I didn’t feel the spark”

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

2020 has made me mean. I'd openly and up front tell a trans-identified individual who was harassing me (subordinate clause important here) they were ugly and then block. Let them sort out the reasons in the privacy of their own room.

In my case it's all hypothetical, I'm married and not looking for strange.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That’s fair and I really have no concern sparing feelings, I’m also not looking- but for those I know who are them retaliating with violence for rejection is not unheard of.