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[–]reluctant_commenter 32 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 0 fun33 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

This makes me so angry. Being LGB is not a pass to get extra privileges. I don't want to see ANY couples having sex in the park, why does this guy think gay couples should be?

Also, can anyone enlighten me as to what "cruising culture" is?

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Hi! It’s heavily covered in the New York City context in the book Stonewall: the riots that sparked the gay revolution by David Carter. Basically, back in the day, most gay men had nowhere to partake in homosexual behavior. They couldn’t rent hotels and many did not have the privacy to do so at home, and therefore couldn’t do it safely at home. So there were certain public areas known for “cruising” including along Central Park where gay men would go to pick up one another. Basically it was understood that if you were there, you were a man who was looking to participate in sexual activity with another man. There were secret codes of behavior and language that developed around it because the men still couldn’t just walk up to another man and say, “Hi, do you want to have sex?” They were also constantly getting arrested by the police who patrolled the cruising spots and often entrapped the men.

Cruising was born out of necessity. Certainly those men would have preferred to be at home and in private.

[–]reluctant_commenter 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Hey!! :) thanks for the explanation! That makes a lot of sense. Do you think it's possible that this may have produced a generation divide in how people think about cruising? I definitely would not have thought about how saying "get a room" would have been an unreasonable response 20 years ago, without the context you described; but, also, times have changed and I do think this twitter user's tweet may be harmful to the public's perception of LGB people.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

yeah he's asking for something we don't need anymore.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You said it better than I would, but I think the point is, in the west, this is a ridiculous thing for guy to say. This doesn't make us look good.