Just wanted to let you know that I read your post and typed up a long heartfelt response and then when trying to move it to a private message I inadvertently deleted the whole thing. I will send you a pm when I have it in me to type up again, but for now I’ll say that I’m SO sorry that happened to you. Hugs to you. I’m not surprised that people like you and me with shithead parents end up in places like this where a lot of the concern is the impact on children due to clinically self-centered adults projecting their bullshit onto vulnerable and impressionable kids. And now these kids are being taught not to listen to their instincts that tell them something is off about a person, to push away and feel shame about their very rational fears and their own personal boundaries. They might as well burn The Gift of Fear. It’s vomit-inducing.