BisexualHelping out bi coworker

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[–]reluctant_commenter 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Just wanted to add. I think this is a really important question to ask:

What advice do y’all have for being supportive of him (without making it weird) when his only point of access seems to be toxic reddit communities?

I am not bi so I can't speak to their experience, but the only thing I have found super helpful for myself in terms of accepting being a gay woman, is hanging out with another gay woman I know IRL. No offense I love talking with people here too-- but there's just something about in-person conservations and SEEING people live out their words in person, as another LGB person, that is healing and calming and supportive or whatever. (This place, for me, is more of a support for TQ insanity", though I wish I knew more "drop the T" people IRL.)

[–]julesburm1891[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You make a good point. One of the most important things when I came out was actually getting to meet other lesbians and know I wasn’t alone. I suppose I should find at least one other bi dude in our city to casually introduce him to.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, and yeah that sounds like a good idea. Only if you have the energy for it though :)

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yes yes yes! Even before you’re out or just dipping your toes, the amount of comfort this provides is amazing and does a lot to make you feel normal/like a human.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I feel honored whenever you approve of my comments, I hope you know that 😆

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Aw it’s mutual. 🤗 I was recently wondering, “where has my intellectual compadre reluctant_commenter gone?“

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Aw, I've missed you too :) :)

I've been gone partly out of disillusionment with s/lesbians, and partly out of just real-life stuff. I'm super stressed over finances right now and I'm in an area that was heavily impacted by the wildfires. The past couple weeks have been a nightmare honestly.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yea s/lesbians got especially weird and hostile for a bit and it’s still a little off. So many people coming in with an agenda and an axe to grind.

Real life is more important. I hope your finances get worked out, and I cannot imagine what it’s like living by the wildfires. How is this real life?

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I might check back in on it in a few months or something. But it is still nice to see people like you and others over here :)