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This is disgusting. The implication that you should stay with your SO post-transition erases gender-based love. Such a sickening step backwards.

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[–][deleted] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

We don't allow trans mockery or subjugation here. Trans people are real people.

You can personally feel however you want, but we're not a platform for shitting on LGBTQ+ who are merely accepting others.

You're showcasing people who are accepting of trans, and trying to create a negative agenda of their support.

I mean, c'mon, the title is "when your partner accepts you for who you are". If you can't handle that, it's a YOU problem, not an LGB problem.

EDIT: also, archive link so people don't have to give clicks to Reddit if they don't want to: http://archive.vn/EVRZc

[–]PlayCardsNotPeople 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

I'm confused.
I thought we'd reached a conclusion, that sexuality is based on sex, not on gender.

[–]abc-noah-is-me[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Serious or /s?

Sex and gender are two different things. One is biological, the other social, and they do not necessarily line up for any given person. Sexuality can be based on either. Nvm that most rainbow people say "gay men should date FTMs, because they're men, not women" (and vice versa). By that logic, if your partner transitions to your non-attracted gender, you could and should break up with them.

[–]annatheginguh 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Read the sidebar of this sub:

Our orientations are based towards an individual's sex, not gender identity.

Even still, I feel like the rules are a little different in an established relationship. If I was married to a woman and she discovered she was trans and wanted to transition, I don’t think I could I dump her just like that. It would be hard, but I know I wouldn’t be able to be that cruel.

[–]abc-noah-is-me[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, but that would make the majority hypocrites, because if they believe that orientation is in fact gender-based, you should dump your partner if they transition to a non-oriented gender. Denial of that fact is literally forcing gay men (lesbians) to be with women (men), which is exactly what we all fought for YEARS against. I don't consider myself LGBDropTheT, but I didn't know where else to post this (and get a positive reaction).

[–]zeusdx1118 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It wouldn't be cruel. It would be biology.

[–]zeusdx1118 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You both agree and a basically saying the same thing, but I think you're confused about what he/she is saying because of (perhaps bad?) wording.

(Or maybe I am...)

[–]indeepshadowsBi woman 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I don't see the woman's sexuality stated anywhere, but it could well be her sexual attraction has survived her partner's transition. I'm bisexual, so I could... sort of(?).. see that happening if this were me, but I'm not sure. But I don't think it's fair to assume she's staying because she feels forced to somehow. But I agree that stating "When your partner accepts you for who you are" in the title implies that if your partner left, they would be a horrible person, and I'm so not on board with that.

[–]abc-noah-is-me[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

"But I agree that stating "When your partner accepts you for who you are" in the title implies that if your partner left, they would be a horrible person, and I'm so not on board with that."

A. FUCKING. MEN.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

they are teaching the baby lgb at reddit that your sexuality comes after their identity.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I like how a few of the comments are about how much they look alike lol. Except for that bone structure. Not sure what gender based love is though.

[–]zeusdx1118 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The implication that you should stay with your SO post-transition erases gender-based love.

Sexual attraction is about sex and not about gender.

Love is hard to define and very arbitrary to some, but love between 2 people in a relationship based on sexual attraction is probably not "gender-based" either, unless one of them is sexually attracted to gender (identity/stereotypes).

But my point, is that sex, gender, and love are different so I'm not sure what you're saying here.

[–]sgtduffy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

this is his comment just posted 5 mins ago:

Just for everybody to know to stop any confusion from the comments I keep getting on this post. I'm gender fluid so my partner is not bi, I switch between genders and Gemma doesn't find the girl version of me attractive. Gemma is 100% straight. What I mean in the title is she accepted me being my female self from time to time when I feel female 😃 xx

idk what to say

[–]disheveledtomboyGen X Old AF DGAF 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

JFC. I do not look forward to reading Gemma's transwidow escape post.

[–]notdelusionalbased faggot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I give it two months, a year max.

[–]Pookius 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What I find most creepy is how it appears he is trying to look just like her. It's a little "Single White Female," in my opinion...