Difficult post: child abuse, deviant behavior in my own family

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[–]censorshipment 6 insightful - 7 fun6 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

Hmm don't really know what to say. My family loved the pedo men who molested all 7 of my maternal grandmother's daughters... daughters who consider themselves feminists and love men so much.

My mom was abused by her eldest brother for years... she stopped him from molesting me once, and he never tried again. They were pretty close. Before he died, she visited him and made sure his final months weren't gloomy. She braided his hair before his funeral and kept some of his hair. Such odd behavior for a second-wave feminist who raised me to never trust men. How could she forgive and love a man, her brother, who repeatedly raped her? She told me about the abuse when I was a pre-teen... and I had to hide my hatred for him. Why in the fuck are little girls taught to do that? Why are little girls taught to be nice and respectful? I didn't want to go to his funeral, but my mom begged me to go. Her other brother molested their youngest sisters, and I was begged to go to his funeral as well. It's very sickening that rape/molestation is considered forgivable.

[–]TheOnyxGoddess 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Because of the concept of "family". They'd probably condemn males who do the same thing, but if it's their own family, it's a different story. My life experiences has made me prefer "friends" over "family", at least they're more likely to respect your boundaries. How ironic that I would likely end up seeing "good friends" as "family". I prefer to be treated like a "good friend" than "family. I'm not so sure what you mean by "love men so much", but I'm guessing you're talking about sexuality and I'm saying this saying this in case you are, you can still be a male hater while being straight, at least your dating standard is going to be pretty high. You're a misandrist if the thought of "male" brings up some pretty violent feelings you want to commit against a male, not out of justice, but anger and sadism.

Edit: Wording

[–]Greykittymomma[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel this way about friends and family, so true.

I get it, it is more difficult to imagine a loved one committing these crimes but the crimes must be condemned. I will never forget or forgive after discovering the extent of this abuse.

[–]Greykittymomma[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry that happened in your family. This has certainly brought up many conflicting feelings in our family.

This abuser will likely be put away a very long time. There is terrible evidence accumulating. It is heartbreaking but at least the evidence means he will never be allowed near her again.