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[–][deleted] 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Growing up lesbian Ellen page was such an inspiration.. the coming out speech was huge to me and that they didn’t care how they looked or dressed and now they’re trans. I’m honestly just heartbroken. Every gender non conforming woman including my own partner is now non binary or trans

[–]fuckupaddams 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Every gender non conforming woman including my own partner is now non binary or trans

Have you ever had a real conversation with your partner and asked her why? Or do you just swallow your disappointment?

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

My partner is non binary, honestly their answer is exactly like everyone elses "I dont feel male or female" but we've had a lot of conversations about gender roles and things like that and they've admitted it has a lot to do with gender roles. In the east in the country I grew up in there are no real gender roles tbh so all my gay and lesbian friends just see their sex as their sex and how they live their life is according to no expectations. They understand that I think gender is a massive social construct that encourages gender roles.

[–]slushpilot 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

"I dont feel male or female"

I never understood what this means. How do people come to believe this is some kind of feeling that you're expected to have? We don't say this about any of our other physical attributes...

[–]fuckupaddams 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"I don't feel like I have brown eyes or green eyes" Just... Look in the mirror?

[–]bopomofodojo 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's a cope that's been bashed into their heads: "you don't like the stereotypical gender roles for your sex" = "you must not be that gender", so if you "don't like" both sets of extreme stereotypical gender roles, you're "non-binary". No, it doesn't make any sense whatsoever unless you drink that particular Kool-Aid, which is in vast supply. This is why the trans movement is extraordinarily regressive despite its constant proclamations of progressivism.

[–]vijfkeervier 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

In the r/movies discussion on Page there was a heavily upvoted post where someone tried to explain what feeling non-binary is by comparing it to liking Star Wars: some people hate Star Wars, some people love it and in the middle you've got people who sort of like it or have never seen it - and those are non-binary. Lots of comments on how helpful that post was, lol.

[–]slushpilot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So assuming I haven't watched Star Wars I'm still expected to have an opinion or feelings about it? How about no.

Yeah, so helpful, lol.