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[–]redditbegay 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

not sure if it was the reason of him becoming an asshole tho

How much of an asshole was your father before he went off to the wars in your country?

[–]VioletRemi 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Mother said he was pretty decent person before, but a bit selfish and narcissistic.

He wasn't on war in my country, it was in USSR, and not war - there two trains collapsed, and military was sent to sort bodies and metal out, so he spent few days sorting dead bodies and human pieces. Mother saying after that he started to drink alcohol all the time, and with each year passing his mind was becoming worse and worse, until he started beating mother when I wasn't at home and being agressive to me and my younger sister.

His older brother and my grandfmother suffered there as well.

And me, as lesbian, would be outlawed there as well.

So I have pretty biased vision of it, as it hurted my family (including myself) multiple times and very hard.