Great points, Jelli!

One thing I want to point out, re this:

I don't mind the idea of a single TIM because I'm a physically large woman with no history of victimization and who's not afraid to make a scene if the situation calls for it. I don't get to make that choice on behalf of every teen, elder woman, disabled woman, religious woman, timid woman, injured or weak woman, woman with young children, and survivor. If even ONE of them is less likely to use the bathroom because there's a man in it then it's misogynistic.

What's true of you - and all of us -today is not necessarily what will be the case tomorrow. Many women who were once strong, sturdy, utterly fearless, willing and able to make a scene to defend themselves the way you can at this point in time find that later on down the road of life all this changes due to disease or advanced age. I know so many women who were as you describe yourself but who in time developed health conditions that robbed them of all of it.

I'm such a woman. In my youth, I was strong, athletic, confident and fearless enough that once in the 1980s when a mugger in the NYC subway came at me brandishing a knife I shook my head "no no no" and shouted, "Don't even think about it!" then kicked him in the balls, causing him to fall to the ground writhing in pain. Now decades later I am not only older and weaker and frailer, I'm quite disabled by disease. And I feel quite vulnerable when I venture out, which I don't do much anymore coz even before COVID the world had seemed to become an unsafe and unwelcoming place for a woman like me in my present situation.