So much this! My journey has been similar to yours. I always felt like something was off with the rabid insistence of TWAW, especially when it came to sports and sex, because then it's about more than how one feels. But overall I thought okay fine, expand "women". Whatever. I want to be accepting and supportive of people who're struggling with being different from most of the world, so I'll just go along with some things even though I don't believe them. I hate it, but I'll even accept the whole "cis" thing, just as long as there is a clear way to group biological women. The JK Rowling debacle made me look more closely and now the insidious nature of TWAW is so much more apparent to me.

Also, even if there is some way a "woman" feels and some women have a sense of it, how on earth would a transwoman know what that is? It isn't an emotion. All a transwoman knows is how she feels. She knows nothing about how any other woman on the planet feels like a woman. I don't know that about any other woman on the planet. Even when someone with dysphoria gets surgery and feels better, all they know is they feel better than they did earlier. They don't know what I feel or what the 3.5 billion women on the planet feel.

Because of this whole gender ideology, I had friends telling me they think there is a distinct part of them that "feels" female. Okay. I don't have that. Now what? Even if you have it, it's obviously not universal to all women, and I'll be damned if you try to tell me I'm agender or genderless or whatever else. You don't get to define me for me right? I'm a woman.

It's so senseless and pointless and annoying.