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[–]fuckupaddams[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

But do you realize how the environment is? If i suggest to him, who I don't even have a personal relationship with, or her, that maybe transitioning is not the thing he needs, I will be the hateful asshole, and my intolerance and the same intolerance of everyone else is what leads to the depression and suicide. They literally won't see it rationally. To them, the suicide statistics of trans people is so because people didn't accept them as trans, NOT because of the transition in itself. There is no room for that conversation. They would both equally just consider me a bigot if I even suggested it. Even though she's encouraging it, he is the one coming out and saying "I hate being male, I want to be a woman." What can I do? I don't even know him. I just know what she tells me about his mental health.

[–]slushpilot 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, I do get it. It's an impossible situation, so it's best to just stay out of it. It's not your responsibility to fix.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's not but the whole thing makes me feel crazy. He comes to hang out with us wearing a skirt as if that affirms his new identity, when I wonder if anyone in his life ever told him he could dress how he wants as himself. The whole thing is depressing.