Intrusion - First Time Mom, there's an initialization for that term. TW, pregnant lady rant ahead

submitted by trumpetvine from self.GenderCritical

I really hate this movement of straight girls saying that they're gay boys, having some straight sex, and intruding into my discussion space when they get a sprog in them. Pregnant people, my eyes hurt from rolling so much. I am currently a pregnant woman, and Reddit hates women. They are happy throwing us under the bus to pander to the imagined butthurt of straight girls of privilege. All the pregnancy subs very loudly announce that they are welcoming of everything incubating a sprog, and any "hate" will result in a ban. It would be super swell if there was some sort of space where I could freely discuss things that might traumatize the little trauma-sponges of privilege (TSOP, I can make an acronym too. It's a more inclusive acronym that includes the too-posh-to-push, the fearful-of-tearing, and validation-deficient TIFs, but not the third world where women actually die of these things) or, on the flip side, scandalize the prudish Abrahamists on the dedicated pregnancy forums of those other pregnancy sites. Their god kills everything when it has a bad day, and my gods have better things to do than preoccupy themselves with the activities of one little mortal. Maybe discussion about my body is just...cancelled.

At least this isn't the first time I've done this. I've done this before, I don't plan on changing anything up, I don't have any shopping advice for anyone, I actually kinda hate shopping, I can commiserate about annoying busybodies who need hobbies, but I'm not interested in hearing about why my... well, maybe I could make a mod grievances about unflaired discussions about these things that disgust/horrify me. They wouldn't take me seriously because I'm cancelled. I don't find 30 hours of womanly labor traumatic. TSOPs do. I'm in the least-comfortable trimester, so I just want to complain right now.

There was a butch lesbian girl who posted here some time ago saying that GC feminists are right, she doesn't want to take T, but she still wants a double mastectomy. I think about her a lot. Those things aren't just for looking at, she might artificiality inseminate a wife someday, and she could use them to induce lactation if the wife can't nurse for some reason. My nursing time with this one will sadly be limited. If I had a wet-nurse wife...

Breastmilk is easier to clean up, it's not some nature-mom virtue signal, it's laziness. Babies are messy. And Misogyneddit is full of dudes faping to babies eating. I got a gross follower after I shared a story about pumping. Blocked, but seriously, WTF.

Thanks for reading my rant.

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[–]MarkTwainiac 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Your use of "sprog" suggests you might be from the UK. But wherever you're from, if you haven't checked out Mumsnet yet, you might find it a far better fit than reddit. The feminism/women's rights section is great, as are the relationships boards, and there's lots of women discussing pregnancy, birth, babies, breastfeeding and a zillion other topics of all sorts. Lots of swearing and ranting too!

[–]trumpetvine[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ha, I wish I was UK right now, the smoke from the fires is just now finally clearing out. I'm just a Yank infatuated with language and history. I will check that site out, if I ever get a moment to look at anything. The older kids are starting school, and they're doing it at home, covid distance learning.

I keep thinking more and more about homeschooling. I definitely don't want my girl going to public school until they revise their gender-diversity policies, make it an explicit policy that no male-bodied students will be allowed in a room where she is peeing. I sorta hate this ultra woke state.

[–]msteacherlady 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

GO OFF!

I remember being on r/babybumps and periodically seeing the comment "LOL so that's what it means, ha ha I was wondering why so many ppl were talking about transmen in here" when it came to FTM.

The fact that I felt most at the mercy of my womanhood during my indescribable back labor should not offend transpeople or women who have never given birth. And if it does, well...that's pretty fragile and I can't help you.

[–]slushpilot 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Well, for my part, I can't wait to say "congratulations, when are you due!" the next time I see "ftm".

[–]denverkris 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just can't even...

[–]jelliknight 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Girl I hear ya. I saw the FTM acronym and thought "fuck there's a lot of them in this group!" lol.

PM me for venting. I'm a FTM still in my first trimester, haven't told anyone except husband and when i do I'm kind of planning to lie to everyone because I'm planning an unassisted home birth and I'm not interested in hearing The Opinions.