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    [–]MarkTwainiac 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

    My husband was honored and happy enough by my agreeing to marry him! And since I was the only one who could get pregnant, give birth and breastfeed, he had more reason to honor me than the other way around.

    [–]ANIKAHirsch 2 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 5 fun -  (7 children)

    Good for him.

    I think honor goes both ways in a relationship.

    [–]msteacherlady 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

    So for you a woman honors a man by taking his name. What is the reciprocal?

    [–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

    The ring?

    [–]msteacherlady 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    What is it about the ring that makes this reciprocal?

    [–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    The value of the jewelry.

    [–]msteacherlady 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    I'm sorry if the question sounded obvious but I didn't want to assume that you think a woman's name can be bought. Apparently my mother's name was worth $300 dollars, but that may have been discounted because I received both of my parents name. Papa got a great deal! My mother's best friend's name got bought out at the top of the market, $100k.

    Surely this practice continues to make sense in the modern era. /s

    [–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    You were asking for the reciprocal.

    I don't see marriage as transactional anyway. It's a commitment. It should only be done for love.

    ...

    You started with "I'm sorry" but ended with /s. So I don't think you're being sincere either.

    [–]msteacherlady 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I apologize for seeming insincere. If the value of the ring is what is reciprocal, then how is marriage not transactional? Or is it like posting bail?