Are we conditioned to ignore sexism?

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[–]lefterfield 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Hoemw do I know I am not overthinking it?

I would say the best way is to do what you've done here - get a second opinion from someone that's reasonable, like your friend from what it sounds. It's really hard to say, especially when women are trained to believe it's their fault that an idea of theirs is dismissed or rejected rather than due to sexism. And not every case will have sexism as the cause.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, I feel kinda silly for not understanding that they were being sexist. You're also right that not every case may be sexist related. For all I know, maybe...they just don't like me(unrelated to sex or race, just personality).Hahaha

I wish we women are NOT trained this way...to always "accommodate" for men. We need to teach our daughters/girls in our life it's okay to speak out and no, you don't have ti cater to everyone's feelings.

I started opening my mouth more and people do NOT like that haha. So my thought was maybe they did NOT like that I have called them out in the past?

[–]lefterfield 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Certainly I think sexist men are more likely to resent outspoken women. But that doesn't mean you're the problem OR that they would react the same way to a man that calls them out the same way and for the same reasons you have. It's very likely they wouldn't. You don't come across like an unpleasant person, and you and your ideas deserve to be treated with as much respect as if you were born with a penis. Don't second-guess yourself so much!

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Currently going through some personal stuff (apart from work) that is related to sexist men so....thanks for your kind words. I reañly appreciate you.