Like the title says, are we conditioned to ignore sexism when it's right infront of our nose and no bat an eye?
At work, i am in small crew working on project for resource material for our workers---we were forced volunteered for it. Most are men in group with one other woman in there with me.
Anyways, anytime i say idea, they would always shoot it down and the other woman would never talk or say anything.
One day, they decided to add my male friend coworker to the project too. I told him my EXACT same ideas, and asked him to present it.
Suddenly, ALL of the group members were agreeing? I was scratching my head hard not understanding why they would tell me no
Then my friend said "because they're sexist".
What?
"Did you notice whenever you said the same thing as me, they say no but I repeat what you say and they suddenly agree? They're being sexist."
I'm grateful that my friend stood up for me and helped me out. My other team members have been lazy and hardly help(including that one lady). I pretty much had to take over that project(and I'm working on ANOTHER project on the side so I'm spread thin).
Is there something we can DO to fight back on this? How do I know if I'm being paranoid or no? I am also a minority too in this particular country and it's easier for me to tell when someone is being downright racist(ex. Calling me "exotic", people being annoying who ask question like what mixture of race I am RANDOMLY when we FIRST MEET and not in normal conversation, telling me "you're different, you're not like the rest of [racial slur]") rather than sexist.
The only time i can really tell if someone is being sexist blantly when they refer to women as "females" for example and make obvious generalization like "females take forever getting ready to go out!". Or referring to women by derogatory term like bitch, wh0re, h0e.
But what about the more subtle misogyny like mention above from my work? How do I know I am not overthinking it?
Edit: spelling, my bad.
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