You’re both right. Bisexual & lesbian are exclusive sexualities. Yet additionally: in growing as a human being & having experiences, you thought you were bisexual at one point, lesbian at another; there is of course nothing wrong with that.

If I may say so... I don’t think just_lesbian_things was challenging your right to discern your sexuality over the course of your life. They themselves were clearly protective in their comment of the term “lesbian,” and who can blame them given how its ‘definition’ includes attraction to men nowadays.

It wasn’t clear at all in this small sentence fragment what the combination of the two sexualities meant—the “/“ just made it seem as though “bisexual/lesbian” was your sexuality. It didn’t connote a distinction between them to me.

Seems like a miscommunication. You explained what you meant & it wasn’t that you were simultaneously bisexual & lesbian, therefore rendering just_lesbian_things’ comment irrelevant to your reply. I can’t know how painful & confusing it must have been for you during that time. People are eager to misunderstand you when you’re a young woman, even more so when you’re gnc. I would be a dog off the leash to anyone who tried to tell me who I am; I really do understand where you’re coming from, even if I can’t know completely all you’ve been through. I really don’t think there’s any ill-intent here. We’re all protective of who we are as lesbians & Im glad for that. I hope I didn’t overstep any boundaries in commenting on this exchange—just felt like I might be able to help. Famous last words