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[–]msteacherlady 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

And here we go again rubbing "missionary sex" in everyone's face as if that's the only alternative to BDSM or that it's inherently boring and not pleasurable.

I can say that I appreciate how the kink community came together to denounce the dangerous practices brought to mainstream by 50 Shades. However, I don't trust any man into the S part of BDSM. I'm sorry, but someone working out fantasies by watching a movie (the poor actors though!) or playing a video game is loads different than acting it out with real bodies.

[–]worried19 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's their way of dismissing us by labeling us prudes. If they pretend that we can only barely tolerate the missionary position in the dark, they don't have to examine the ramifications of their own actions. To them, we're just people who don't like sex. When in truth, lots of us have high libidos and love all the different positions out there. We just disagree with women being dominated and degraded.

[–]msteacherlady 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. If it were only about having differing preferences, it would be "to each their own" and that would be that. But when you invest in all the equipment, mental gymnastics, and time in something that someone else is criticizing, it seems that you've got to paint the others as somehow missing out.

I always find the accusation of not liking sex as ironic. I mean, I really like it to the point where I don't need a lot of bells and whistles and dog collars to make it appealing!