Asking for donations for chest surgery

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[–]Literallyawoman 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

So this might be a little off topic but fuck anyone who threatens suicide to manipulate others into giving them money because I’ve seen a lot of trans people spewing that shit online and it’s toxic af.

IRL my family member is a transman( very young lesbian who just left an abusive household -textbook “transman” who will detrans and regret it in a few years mark my words) and would frequently post begging/demanding people Venmo them money for not just their hormone injections “to survive” but their rent money and food money and clothes money because they’re a poor sad dysfunctional suicidal mess that society owes everything to because they’re trans.

It got old quick and even their siblings are basically keeping them at a distance because they realized they were being emotionally abused and used by a self-victimizing freeloader.

Ever watch my 600 pound life? Usually abused and/or mentally ill people who eat themselves into death and surround themselves with enablers. That reminds me so much of the trans I know IRL.

Except instead of crippling themselves with morbid obesity it’s the never ending road to becoming their perfect self through surgery and hormones instead of actual self work.

[–]Agodachi 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've noticed that many trans people ask for assistance with rent, food, utilities, surgeries- it's SO weird for me. I'm sure part of my aversion is due to my upbringing, but if it's such a big deal for them why don't they take responsibility for themselves and work? Not to sound ableist or shame those in low-income situations in any way, but damn. Grow up and be an adult. You don't see people asking for assistance with their therapies when they're depressed or dealing with other mental issues. You don't see as many disabled people asking for assistance with their issues. You don't see single parents asking for help with their kids.

It's this weird entitlement they have.

Also edit: my eyes just brush over the moment you talked about my 600 Lb Life and I know exactly what you're talking about. There are a plethora of mental illnesses out there that are not properly getting treated. Whether someone is obese, anorexic, trans, depressed, there's a deeper issue at play that needs to be addressed with therapy and possibly regulated medication.

[–]Cicerosolo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Trust me, when you have a significant disability that makes people feel sorry for you and easily allows you to exaggerate the effects without being caught out and instead be met wirh limitless sensitivity and concessions the temptation is always there to take advantage of it. Even if you're a good, strong person it's just so easy to dip down into that pot when you're weak. The more narcissistic among us of course play that instrument like a virtuoso with very little regret. And in my view, trans allows these situations even moreso than much more severe conditions because of present environmental perceptions.