Dealing with him, the terrible boss TiM

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[–]TurtleFuzz 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

As someone who used to work in HR, I would suggest just keeping as low a profile as you possibly can. Like Habesnicht correctly said, you don't want any kind of harassment on your professional record.

You mentioned he sometimes makes rude comments to/about you. If you ever get any emails or other written proof of these comments, definitely keep them. If you and another coworker hear him say something sexist, try to see if the coworker will go with you to your own HR dept and file a complaint. Witnesses are always helpful.

Other than that, just be very careful around this guy. It seems like he might be onto you and might try to bait/trap you into saying something that could be misconstrued.

If any current HR professionals want to correct me or add on, please do. I've been out of work for over 3.5 years, once my oldest was born.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hate to sound like a negative nancy but...the management here(including HR) is pretty awful. People are dropping like flies and leaving. If worse comes to worse, I DO have those screenshots. Their rather subtle though vs what he's said to me before.

Ex. One of my supervisors, the "Professor" advised for me NOT to do XYZ and ask permission first from supervisors before doing XYZ as that could create extra work (I was new at the time, so I didn't want to get in trouble). Bascially, doing XYZ means communicating with other dep to solve issue that we were unable to since something is not working on our end(sorry for the vagueness, don't want to give myself away).

Anyways, TiM became a new boss for my department. I went to TiM asking him to review work and see if we needed to do XYZ and basically he says something along the lines of "Are you a child? Why do you need to ask for permission?" Because the Professor requested it?...

Apart from that, all I hear from TiM is "FYI, you can't be doing this or that". Like okay well, why didn't you mention it EARLIER BEFORE I did it??

Idk, I mean I could try going to HR but TiM's bestie works there and he seems to be "well liked" by everyone, so I'll be starting something if I did do it.

[–]TurtleFuzz 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oof, that sounds awful. Do you work for a small company? All the companies I've worked for have been fairly big, international companies. Think 1-2k people at the location I was at. Some state laws don't require companies with less than 50 people to follow all the anti-discrimination laws.

If you think HR will be on the nasty TiM's side, then your best option is to find another job. I'm sure it's tough if you have a LO to take care of, but reach out everywhere. Any friends/old classmates who work at good companies, check every job board, and also try staffing agencies. I found my best job through an agency, as a temp-to-hire.

If you want any help reviewing your resume, I'd be happy to help.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, it's fairly small, I would about 100 or less? That's just a ballpark estimate.

Most likely they will be on his side, unfortunately, sonce he's one of the first people to help build said company. I haven't been here long...I don't really have much friends around, I moved maybe 1k + kilometers away from my support...so I'm here alone with SO, LO and SO's family buuuuuut yeah that's a whole nother story haha. The only friends I have work for this company. I signed up for the Temp Agency(who got me this job) but they keep saying there's no jobs...

I'll private message you resume later, currently at work---doing project---if that's okay.