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[–]JoanofArc5 43 insightful - 1 fun43 insightful - 0 fun44 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

How hard we have to work for people (men) to take us seriously. We can't just go into a business meeting and say natural words and be listened to. I am constantly thinking and rethinking about how best to present my position. Have I handled this person's ego enough? Have I made them feel important and powerful? How can I disagree with a man or tell him that he's wrong without making him angry because he feels demasculated?

[–]msteacherlady 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Recently I've been reviewing my emails looking for accommodating language and then removing it. I remember back in the day "Clippy" would check my documents for passive voice. Now I wish he'd check my writing for being unnecessarily obsequious. I'm hoping this eventually translates to how I speak, and I'm hoping that by digging in I can just force the issue of being taken seriously. It helps that I'm in a female dominated field though.